New Again Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I understand that you are a student but after the pursuing that she did you should've picked up the tab. You shouldn't go out on dates to a wine bar if you can't afford it...maybe take them to starbucks or something next time. She made A LOT of effort here and the fact that she accepted your ride home is huge or maybe she just didn't have any money left for a cab after paying for dinner. I wouldn't read anything into the kiss. She was probably just trying to make things easy for the both of you. Concise. I completely agree, and it looks like most of the other posters do also.
bac Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 (edited) Go with flow and continue go out with her. Edited January 14, 2010 by bac
boogieboy Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 call her on the phone and make a second date. Sometimes it doesnt behoove you to worry. Dont overanalyze it and go out on a second date to make a determination. Chances are since youre not saying "it was a great date"...then she didnt think it went well either.
New Again Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Chances are since youre not saying "it was a great date"...then she didnt think it went well either. So true. Whenever I read articles or watch dating shows where you get to see both people's reactions to the date I tend to think that both are pretty much on the same page as to how well (or not) the date went, with men being very slightly more optimistic than women. For some reason men 9 times out of 10 seem to think that it went slightly better than the women do.
Author CaspianDreams Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 Very true - in actuality, I think I tend to be on the more pessimistic side, as I have certainly been contacted by enough women asking why they haven't heard from me yet (because I was more neutral), and I rarely get turned down for seconds dates (mainly because I don't ask for many) - so maybe our perceptions are pretty equal. Regardless, the shared perception bit is without question true. I'm definitely on the fence, so I would be surprised if she was gung-ho about another meeting. I just don't really know how to maneuver the online space yet, so I don't really know what the expected levels of chemistry should be, or what the first encounters should be like, so I'm a bit more open/willing to consider a second meeting, in the off chance there were nerves, amongst other things, mucking around with the first engagement. Anyhow, I shot her a text yesterday evening (after posting here) saying the typical, "I had a good time and that it would be fun to get to know her better" crap (that was a little over a day since we parted ways)...we'll see if I hear anything. At this point, I don't really care, it would be more for experimental purposes and for gauging/learing about how to procede through the online dating world. Yeah, not the most romantic intentions, but oh well...I suppose something could happen if we see each other again.
melodymatters Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 You are coming across rather...Blah in this post. You haven't made one declarative sentence. Is it THIS girl ? Dating period ? Are you just an introverted, low key person ? I always end a first date with a hug, and this girl seemed interested, but if all I got was hesitation, I would move on. And the " there's always the next girl", well the same thing could keep happening unless YOU know what YOU want and go for it !
alphamale Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 So what are peoples' impressions? no physical contact + fast hug = no second date
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