dietpepsi Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Long story short, my ex broke up with me out of the blue 4 months ago, we were together about 9 months, i broke down a bit, she b locked my number, emails went unanswered, she finally said "Please leave me alone" after almost 3 months after an attempted friendly contact. During that three months however i usually ended up texting or emailing 1 a week or so. (I know bad call) The kicker is we w ork together, I w ork in a different building now (nothing to do with the breakup) I do have to swing by there occasionally. So we see each other from across the room etc maybe once a month if that, and usually play the "who's not gonna look at each other" game. I received a private number call last weekend at around midnite on a saturday, I didn't answer it, but it's been burning in my mind that maybe it was a drunken dial... I know I know I know, crazy. That little thing gets planted in your brain though. So after being all kind of ignored and told to "leave me alone" for so long... I decided to poke around after 42 days of NC and sent her a friendly w ork email (all of which had prior been completely ignored, funny links etc, nothing but read and ignored previously) It was just something she liked and i sent her some info on it, to my surprise I received an answer instantly...odd. A friendly answer saying Thank you, and she is glad i sent that to her, and that she appreciated it. I have made sure to keep NC since she asked me to leave her alone, but for some reason i broke it. I do have to go back to that office full time soon. I'm not fully over her to be honest. However it doesn't hurt that i have a completely new GQ work wardrobe and am 37 lbs lighter, and look and smell like a million bucks all the time now. It's given me a lot of confidence, I feel great, but... How should i behave when i have to go back? Any answers are appreciated You guys always give good advice.
sean1970 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 How should i behave when i have to go back? Any answers are appreciated You guys always give good advice. You have already broken the ice and did not have it result in a restraining order; why not try indifferent and see what she does?
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Date someone else. Dont mess around with any co-workers!!!!
Author dietpepsi Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 You have already broken the ice and did not have it result in a restraining order; why not try indifferent and see what she does? Indifference is the one thing she has never received from me actually. It may be time to start, the more I read one this forum, the more it seems this works for many people. "why won't you pay attention to me!!" I don't get women haha
Author dietpepsi Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 Date someone else. Dont mess around with any co-workers!!!! It does make things weird i think, 9 months together working in the same building to...not being together and seeing each other. It makes "moving on" difficult
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 It does make things weird i think, 9 months together working in the same building to...not being together and seeing each other. It makes "moving on" difficult Well it makes no difference now. You only look pathetic chasing after a woman who had you coochie whipped. Dont play the game... Trust me there are other women out here that's gonna treat you good. Dont crap where you eat!
samspade Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Agree with CB. You are playing with fire on two counts - romance at work, and contacting an ex. Stop it, man.
DenverBachelor Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 You have already broken the ice and did not have it result in a restraining order; why not try indifferent and see what she does? I know for a FACT you were grinning ear to ear when you wrote that and were thinking about me. Thank you, Sean!
Author dietpepsi Posted January 13, 2010 Author Posted January 13, 2010 I know for a FACT you were grinning ear to ear when you wrote that and were thinking about me. Thank you, Sean! Do you have a similar story? @CB and Spade Yeah you guys are right, I'm really not trying to chase her, especially not at work. We'll just be so close in proximity, I guess I'm just trying to mend the fence or whatever, so we can each feel comfortable in our working conditions. But i don't want to come off as "chasing" her at the same time. But i do still have feelings for her, so I'm hoping I won't let it show in any way that she would notice.
Mik12 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Agree with CB. You are playing with fire on two counts - romance at work, and contacting an ex. Stop it, man. That response kinda made me smile lol, the forum is about getting back an ex yet youre telling him not to talk to his ex. Im not gonna lie im sorta confused.
Author dietpepsi Posted January 13, 2010 Author Posted January 13, 2010 That response kinda made me smile lol, the forum is about getting back an ex yet youre telling him not to talk to his ex. Im not gonna lie im sorta confused. That's why these forums are so helpful, everyone is very honest, regardless of whether it's what you want to hear or not.
Mik12 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 That's why these forums are so helpful, everyone is very honest, regardless of whether it's what you want to hear or not. But you want her back right? Unless he means go NC and let HER come to you, then i would understand.
DenverBachelor Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 (edited) Do you have a similar story? Yes. Broke NC around November 25'th to wish her a Happy Thanksgiving. By December 8'th I had a restraining order in my hand from the Boulder's Sheriff Department. Everything in between is just a whirlwind of BS and absolute lies from her end. Basically accusing me of trying to gain entry into her apartment, saying I had done so in the past and using the "I'm scared, he's stalking me" to get her parents to help break her lease so she could move out of the building and in with her new BF. My biggest mistake was breaking NC and moving out into a new place in the same complex. The good news from all of this is the realization that she's a selfish bitch and so far beneath me in morals that she doesn't even deserve a guy like me. Live and learn. Edited January 13, 2010 by DenverBachelor
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 "Selfish bitch so far beneath me in morals." Amazing choice of words that should be remembered.
sean1970 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I know for a FACT you were grinning ear to ear when you wrote that and were thinking about me. Thank you, Sean! Still smiling if you must know
Author dietpepsi Posted January 13, 2010 Author Posted January 13, 2010 Yes. Broke NC around November 25'th to wish her a Happy Thanksgiving. By December 8'th I had a restraining order in my hand from the Boulder's Sheriff Department. Everything in between is just a whirlwind of BS and absolute lies from her end. Basically accusing me of trying to gain entry into her apartment, saying I had done so in the past and using the "I'm scared, he's stalking me" to get her parents to help break her lease so she could move out of the building and in with her new BF. My biggest mistake was breaking NC and moving out into a new place in the same complex. The good news from all of this is the realization that she's a selfish bitch and so far beneath me in morals that she doesn't even deserve a guy like me. Live and learn. Wow...at least there is good news at the end of that
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