Blueberry7691 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Oh boy..He's not worth the effort. I don't want him back but I'm sooo tempted to contact him. I keep wondering why. Maybe it's the 'void' in me. I need to fill up. Ugh!! Even if I do contact him, what would I say? It's not like I want him. This is too confusing.. I've done nothing because I'm afraid I'll be making a huge mistake. I just want to move forward and deal with whatever I'm feeling. Help!!
alphamale Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I've done nothing because I'm afraid I'll be making a huge mistake. yes doing nothing is the correct course of action here
bananaboat11 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 When I was a dumper I felt the same thing. We (8/10 people) ALWAYS go back. There was something that drew them to us. Unless you're emotionally ****ed up... Blueberry, you're human. It's normal. Don't do it though. Let your s/o HEAL. I went back b/c I knew she missed the **** out of me. And I missed her just being in my life. I still have a place in my heart for her.. and she for me, but we don't love eachother... and thus, it works. If we end up together one day... fine. but that doesn't phase us NOW. Do yourself a favor... rant all you want on these boards, but let your s/o heal... you CAN'T tease them. It's WRONG and unhealthy and unfair to them. Now being a dumpee.. it's been 3 months and i'm sure.. as cold, cruel, heartless as my ex girl is... she's beginning to feel what you are (hence why she unblocked me on fb)... and I noticed this. It hurt. I blocked her b/c I don't want her doing what YOU WANT to do... It's not fair to us dumpees. Let us be... let us get over you... let us move on... ESPECIALLY if you're going to string a carrot in front of us and play us for a fool to feed your egos and fill a void YOU created. IT'S JUST NOT FAIR.
Elizabrary Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I feel the same way, and it makes me feel stupid. The only thing that keeps me from it is I have sworn to myself I would not do it. I truly want to get healthy and I know this is the only way. When I'm really losing it I walk my dogs- that helps more than anything else. Just know you aren't the only one feeling like this- I'm right there with you, and it sucks!
Author Blueberry7691 Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 When I was a dumper I felt the same thing. We (8/10 people) ALWAYS go back. There was something that drew them to us. Unless you're emotionally ****ed up... Blueberry, you're human. It's normal. Don't do it though. Let your s/o HEAL. I went back b/c I knew she missed the **** out of me. And I missed her just being in my life. I still have a place in my heart for her.. and she for me, but we don't love eachother... and thus, it works. If we end up together one day... fine. but that doesn't phase us NOW. Do yourself a favor... rant all you want on these boards, but let your s/o heal... you CAN'T tease them. It's WRONG and unhealthy and unfair to them. Now being a dumpee.. it's been 3 months and i'm sure.. as cold, cruel, heartless as my ex girl is... she's beginning to feel what you are (hence why she unblocked me on fb)... and I noticed this. It hurt. I blocked her b/c I don't want her doing what YOU WANT to do... It's not fair to us dumpees. Let us be... let us get over you... let us move on... ESPECIALLY if you're going to string a carrot in front of us and play us for a fool to feed your egos and fill a void YOU created. IT'S JUST NOT FAIR. You are sooo right!! I have tears in my eyes. I don't know why. Guess cuz I'm hearing it from the other sides perspective. Yeah, I can't tease him. Not that I want to intentionally 'tease' him but you know what I mean. It's wrong and he needs to heal too. I just wish this wasn't sooo hard though. And I know he wants me to contact him which makes it even harder. Thank you sooo much. I do care about him. I don't want to make this whole process worse. And yeah, sounds like your ex wants to hear from you too. You're right though.
Author Blueberry7691 Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 I feel the same way, and it makes me feel stupid. The only thing that keeps me from it is I have sworn to myself I would not do it. I truly want to get healthy and I know this is the only way. When I'm really losing it I walk my dogs- that helps more than anything else. Just know you aren't the only one feeling like this- I'm right there with you, and it sucks! It's good to know I'm not alone. Btw, I love the pix of your dog.
Author Blueberry7691 Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 BananaBoat: Thanks again for your response. You always seem so... right about things. I know you felt bad about your own situation and talking to one of your exes friends but you know,as you said to me, You're Only Human. It wasn't the worse thing in the world. As a matter of fact, it only shows that you're not some piece of crap guy just looking to get laid. You really cared about this girl. And you know, I bet she wasn't good enough for you. I hope you heal quickly.
bananaboat11 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 BananaBoat: Thanks again for your response. You always seem so... right about things. I know you felt bad about your own situation and talking to one of your exes friends but you know,as you said to me, You're Only Human. It wasn't the worse thing in the world. As a matter of fact, it only shows that you're not some piece of crap guy just looking to get laid. You really cared about this girl. And you know, I bet she wasn't good enough for you. I hope you heal quickly. I'm not going to lie.. it's 7:46pm.. just got done with the gym.. and I'm crying. Thank you for your words. Trust me, blueberry.. it's for the best. Down the road... 2, 3, 4 months... it'll probably be easier for both of us. Thank you
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