Millstang Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 So, I have such a strong relationship with my girlfriend, and I love her so much my words can't even describe. We starting dating my freshman year in college and her junior year in H.S. We spend almost every day with each other, and we have been together for 2 years this summer. We are both Christians, and she is very strong to her morals. We have had sex before, but have made the decision together to wait until marriage. We still have a just as exciting relationship as we did the first month. As it's getting closer to picking where she's going to college, (I go to a local university) She says she wants to move away out of her parents house. She tells me everyday how much she loves me, And of course I believe her, but I just can't understand why she'd want to move away from me. I just feel like if it were the other way around, I would stay with her no question about it. She's looking at a school about 8 and a half hours away from me I have hinted to her, very carefully, that I would love for her to stay in town but she has made up her mind that staying at home isn't an option, and her parents wont let her move out unless she's far enough away for it to make sense. And private universities near by are hard to come by :/ and.. she has no clue what she's going to college for. She just wants to move out This is really the only girlfriend I've had that I'm so content with, It scares me that things will be different. I'm so scared that she is going to meet someone else up there at her university and just live her life up there. I don't know if I'm just being weird about this or what, but it really has been on my mind the past couple weeks, and the anxiety wont leave my stomach. Any advice on this to make me feel better would be so awesome. Thanks so much.
Devil Dog Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 This is a big phase of her life, you know what somewhat, what she's going through, and I have a damn good feeling I know almost exactly what she's feeling at the moment, albeit, I'm in a different situation, it's much the same. This is a really big step, and as a boyfriend, you should be fully supportive of any decision she makes, distance doesn't break every relationship, and there's no reason it should break yours. It's normal to be anxious, and feel like you miss her already, but really, it's putting her in a much better spot in life, preferably with you.
Angel1111 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 This is a huge decision on her part and you need to let her make it. She needs to get out and have her freedom and if you try to deprive her of that, things won't end well. For you, it may be ok to go to a local college but this is obviously not what she wants. She wants to see new things, meet new people, be somewhere else. And I don't think it has anything to do with her not loving you, or not loving you enough. And I don't think it necessarily means that she'll meet someone new. Is that a risk? Yes. But, just think about it - if you were able to convince her to stay and go to the same college as you, someday she will wonder what she missed. She'll wonder about the experiences she didn't have and she will come to resent you for it. Let her spread her wings and she'll love you even more for that. No one ever feels good about someone who tries to tie them down, or hold them back.
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