SummerLady Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 My one friend is about to get married. She is divorced like I but she has been divorced about 3 years. Her soon to be hubby has been divorce about 11 years. Pretty long I think right? She tells me today that his ex does not know about her, she lives a couple states away and his kids are in college. When I asked why she said he said that if she knew he was very happy she would become difficult to deal with and they still have financial obiligations with their kids to a degree. The kids are going to meet her soon and of course ex wife will find out but why would she be mad that he is happy. They have been divorced which seems forever to me. I understand some folks are immature but you have to move on at some point. Yes he did leave her and ultimately end the marriage but you got to move on right? He did not leave his marriage for my friend so its not like she is to blame. I only pray my ex moves on and is happy one day. Someone explain?
reboot Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 You women just don't think like men. He's been divorced for 11 years, his kids are grown, or very nearly so, therefore, in his mind, nothing he does is any of her concern. It probably never even occurred to him to tell her. I understand the mentality completely.
Author SummerLady Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 You women just don't think like men. He's been divorced for 11 years, his kids are grown, or very nearly so, therefore, in his mind, nothing he does is any of her concern. It probably never even occurred to him to tell her. I understand the mentality completely. I guess on one level you are right, its not her business, just seems like a big thing to leave out. I get your point though. Never thought of that.....
Kizzyfur Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 My one friend is about to get married. She is divorced like I but she has been divorced about 3 years. Her soon to be hubby has been divorce about 11 years. Pretty long I think right? She tells me today that his ex does not know about her, she lives a couple states away and his kids are in college. When I asked why she said he said that if she knew he was very happy she would become difficult to deal with and they still have financial obiligations with their kids to a degree. The kids are going to meet her soon and of course ex wife will find out but why would she be mad that he is happy. They have been divorced which seems forever to me. I understand some folks are immature but you have to move on at some point. Yes he did leave her and ultimately end the marriage but you got to move on right? He did not leave his marriage for my friend so its not like she is to blame. I only pray my ex moves on and is happy one day. Someone explain? I cannot answer your question, but I do know women to be like that for some reason. My former SO has been imprisoned for something that didn't even happen just because his ex-GF (who kicked him out a couple years prior to us getting together) found out he had started seeing someone else. She got jealous and fabricated false accusations that got him 80 years prison time with NO evidence. Believe it or not!
mark982 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 had to be some evidence. just don't hand 80 yr sentences for the hell of it.
Kizzyfur Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I want to apologize to Summerlady. I did not intend to overrun your post with the story I used as an example. It really is not the ex-wife's business what he is doing, especially since the kids are grown. had to be some evidence. just don't hand 80 yr sentences for the hell of it. The only "evidence" they had is of a jealous ex-girlfriend saying that he'd done something and everyone else involved saying they didn't remember anything but she had told them it had even though it had supposedly happened to them and not her. I was surprised they convicted him with these testimonies and absolutely no physical evidence. This is not just his word. I was in the courtroom every day with him. But then they don't call it "Hostage County" around here for nothing. "Hostage County, where you come on vacation and leave on probation." If you don't believe it happens, just look up S.A.I.D Syndrome.
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