duece22022 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 can someone tell me why this might be a bad idea? my ex g/f broke up with me about a month ago after 5 years together. i've been NC for about 3 weeks. i am going crazy and i still think about her all the time and i am actively trying not to. the reason for the breakup was she said she needs to find herself and she doesn't know who she is anymore. I just want to call her and i want her to tell me that there is no future with us anymore or we are done forever. i think she owes me this. i just want her to say that and i think i will be able to move on. your thoughts?????????? thanks
DiscoChick Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I feel your pain. Errr well, not really. It can never be said that I didn't love my ex. I think I love him too much. If she wants you back, she will tell you. If she doesn't, go on with life. It is hard, but find something else to pour your time and feelings into. Cope and move on. There's no telling how long it will take for her to find herself. I'm not laughing at you just the whole "I lost myself" thing. It's really funny if you take the statement literally.
HLP234 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 My ex said the same thing, knowing her very well for a long time, that statement is just talk. You can find yourself within a relationship if you really wanted to spend the time and work things out. Apparently, that is not the case, so the only thing to do is just move on. Has she gotten back to you about what she is thinking? Or has she just pretty much not told you anything and been going back and forth with you?
Author duece22022 Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 i haven't spoken to her in 3 weeks. we were really close before and now we are just ignoring eachother. i think that is my answer.
HLP234 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Yeh same here, never have I gotten anything before I found pics of her with another dude, about her moving on or us being completely over. Silence means a lot and I that will be my response for ever for what she did to me, if she ever decides to say anything one day.
gaudi Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Yeah I would also be inclined to let her go "find herself" or whatever. I wouldn't recommend getting in touch with her to get her to say something that sounds more final. It really sounds like she's already made herself pretty clear. What she wants at the moment does sound like it doesn't include you, but she may feel differently wants she knows what it's actually like to be without you after the five years. Let her miss you I say.
HLP234 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 You must realize that one day they will remember what it was like to have something good and then throw it away..without you telling her how it hurt and how much it affected you. Just look forward to that, you may never find it out, but its only common sense, unless the person is really cold hearted and doesn't give a crap, which could be the case..you will hopefully be moved on by then and they will be the ones really "confused" and need to find themselves even more than ever.
Author duece22022 Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 that makes sense. thanks for the input.
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