BettyBoo Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I am just wondering have any of the relationships with the MM/MW ever had a happy ending? I met my husband when he was married but they were separated. It took a while for him to organise his divorce . We got married and have been happily married for five years now.
OWoman Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I am just wondering have any of the relationships with the MM/MW ever had a happy ending? Mine has been a "happy-so-far" rather than a happy ENDING, since neither of us is dead yet He left his xW about two years ago, and a few months after that we moved in together, and have been together ever since. The D came through about a year ago and we got M as soon as we had the paperwork from the lawyers. So far, so
Author BettyBoo Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 Mine has been a "happy-so-far" rather than a happy ENDING, since neither of us is dead yet Glad to hear you both still alive and in love!!! Its nice to hear stories that have a happy outcome . Its good to hear that not all relationships with a MM/MW lead to heartbreak.
PG Love Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I met MM in March of 2008, left my husband in April 2008, MM left his wife in June 2008. He lived with friends for a couple of months due to us living 2 hours apart. He got laid off in October and moved in with me in October 2008. I have finalized my divorce 2 months ago and MM's will be finalized soon. We are happy and expecting a child together in August and are looking to get married the following summer. Sometimes it does work out.
TogetherForever Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 i met mm in march of 2008, left my husband in april 2008, mm left his wife in june 2008. He lived with friends for a couple of months due to us living 2 hours apart. He got laid off in october and moved in with me in october 2008. I have finalized my divorce 2 months ago and mm's will be finalized soon. We are happy and expecting a child together in august and are looking to get married the following summer. sometimes it does work out. ditto!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
confusedinkansas Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 My current father-in-law & step-mother-in-law. Affair 23+ years ago - Both married to someone else at the time. They left their significant others & have been happily married ever since. I will say too.....My mother-in-law moved on & found a very nice man & married him 20 some odd years ago as well.
JamesM Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Mine has been a "happy-so-far" rather than a happy ENDING, since neither of us is dead yet To answer your question, one's life has to have ended as OWoman says. Even those who have an unhappy life as of now should take heart. Tomorrow may be a better day. And for those who profess to be happy...beware, tomorrow may change all that. Be a realist and enjoy today. "The clock is running. Make the most of today. Time waits for no man. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present."
Author BettyBoo Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 To answer your question, one's life has to have ended as OWoman says. Beginnings and endings are part of life and not neccessarily anything to do with birth or death. but I take your point so shall we use the word 'outcome' or "happy ever after " is the question posed.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Our story began anew when we wed late 2008. We're living our happily ever after every day now... With a Yukon XL full of kids and a couple of dogs... Life is good... GEL
moaningmyrtle Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 As a couple of other posters pointed out "happy ever after" can only be looked at with hindsight. My in-laws are an example of "happy still in process" though; but maybe not exactly what you are after. My FIL had an affair and left my MIL for the OW. He divorced my MIL and married the OW. 10 years later he cheated on his 2nd wife - with my MIL of all people! He left his 2nd wife (the fOW) for my MIL. This was 21 years ago this month! They have always seemed to me like the happiest of couples and I never really understood until my own d-day, why my MIL would even want to be with him again. Especially after a 10 year break. More recently I have been concerned for their relationship which is why I agree you can't tell about the "happy ever after" until at least one party is no longer alive.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 More recently I have been concerned for their relationship which is why I agree you can't tell about the "happy ever after" until at least one party is no longer alive. I think I must be a stupidly, optimistic person. This is just so sad to me. Why can't we just celebrate what we have, while we have it? Life is just too short to keep expecting the worst. Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You expect the worst, guess what you're going to get... There's so many blessings in the world: our children, our families, our friends. Even if a love R doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world. It's just the beginning of something else... GEL
jnd2009 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 My bf's step mom was the OW with his Dad. They've been together for 17 years now.
pureinheart Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 To answer your question, one's life has to have ended as OWoman says. Even those who have an unhappy life as of now should take heart. Tomorrow may be a better day. And for those who profess to be happy...beware, tomorrow may change all that. Be a realist and enjoy today. "The clock is running. Make the most of today. Time waits for no man. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." I like to read your posts James, you have always added that bit of thought provoking adages...Thank you!
pureinheart Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I think I must be a stupidly, optimistic person. This is just so sad to me. Why can't we just celebrate what we have, while we have it? Life is just too short to keep expecting the worst. Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You expect the worst, guess what you're going to get... There's so many blessings in the world: our children, our families, our friends. Even if a love R doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world. It's just the beginning of something else... GEL It amazes me to hear even a partial gloom and doom message...exMM/(might be BF if he opens his eyes) does this all of the time, it is a mindset within the individual. I would like to say that it is because of what a person has been through that causes this, although I have been through a WHOLE lot and still am ready to try again...happily ever after is the name of my game....I mean sure I get bumbed, although I am ready to try again. GEL as God as my witness exMM/(you have heard the story) lives to die, literally....he will not fill his tank up with gas because his car might break down and then someone might steel his gas....will not pay anything ahead or in advance because he might die....I said, if you die, you will not care...wow what a bumber way to live... I have been put down for being the eternal optimist, also I am known for laughing all of the time....people would ask me why I am so happy all of the time, that there must be something wrong with me....no, I would say, there is something wrong with you because you are not! Be happy
pureinheart Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Ok, everything else to the side, the anger or whatever...I was crazy about exMM/(maybe BF when he figures out what he really has). We were inseparable and very loyal to each other, best friends. Things happened in the R that pointed towards undying love. We both have made many mistakes and it is hard to just "be ok" after a 30 yr M, so I do understand the healing that is needed. It is hard for me to "just be ok" after all I have been through with him. All of any issues he ever had has been being pulled out during his D...I mean everything. I saw some things that cause me not to trust him and I don't think he wants to get M again....when he gets desparate, thinking I might leave, then the M word comes up. It saddens me, although I will have a happily ever after with someone....it might not be exMM/(...), but it will happen.
Fallen Angel Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 My mother was OW to my now step-father for years. I grew up thinking them to be married, hell, I thought he was my dad for ages. The day his youngest child turned 18 he hand delivered the divorce papers, the day the courts finalized the divorce, he and my mother were married. They have been married for about 25 years now, happily so.
Author BettyBoo Posted January 13, 2010 Author Posted January 13, 2010 Its nice to hear stories of love that prevail despite difficulties. Its a great tribute to the spirit of hope and love. Cheesy I know but I am a romantic:love:
DNR Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Hello, It's been a while since I've posted...sorry. As for your question, I think there are many happy ever afters. I've been with my MM and best friend now for almost 3 years with a ton of ups and downs, back and forth, can't decide if he wants to be with me or her, trying to stay away from each other and always ending up together again. Major emotional roller coaters!! Crazy huh? I can happily and finally say that tomorrow is the final settlement and he will be a 'free man' so to speak. We are both very excited about starting our lives together and looking forward to it. We both know it's going to be hard at first. She can't stand me and when she finds out we are together....well let's just say it won't be very pretty. He loves me and I love him. Go with your heart. Don't let anyone else's opinions have any influence on your feelings towards him. It's your life....enjoy!! Good Luck, DNR
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