b52s Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 (edited) I'm am witnessing this myself.....heard it stated my a comedian somwhere. lol That women, similar to monkeys, won't let go of the last branch (relationship), until they get a firm grip on a new one. They never let relationships have a "gap" they let them overlap....any women guilty of that in here or EVER have been? Guys, agree? Edited January 12, 2010 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
temple Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Actually between my last relationship and the one before that, there was a period of 2.5 years. And before that one, there was a period of 1 year. Right now I'm not in a relationship and I'm not looking either. So I'd say that statement is quite untrue. However, I will admit that some women do jump from one relationship to the next without much gap.
Author b52s Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 Actually between my last relationship and the one before that, there was a period of 2.5 years. And before that one, there was a period of 1 year. Right now I'm not in a relationship and I'm not looking either. So I'd say that statement is quite untrue. However, I will admit that some women do jump from one relationship to the next without much gap. I'm in agreement, though you're probably one of the few, seems quite a few I've met are like this.....I think they pull them out of a Friendzoned Men somewhere, lol. But I'm wondering if this is considered par for the course or normal? It would kind of tick me off, I would find out a woman is breaking up, then I'd be too late to jump on her, when one of her other "guy friends" is dating her. It's hard to squeeze between that gap. lol
sparkle Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I'm guilty of doing this with guys I dated. Now let me finish this banana and get back to u...
temple Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I'm in agreement, though you're probably one of the few, seems quite a few I've met are like this.....I think they pull them out of a Friendzoned Men somewhere, lol. But I'm wondering if this is considered par for the course or normal? It would kind of tick me off, I would find out a woman is breaking up, then I'd be too late to jump on her, when one of her other "guy friends" is dating her. It's hard to squeeze between that gap. lol It's not something I understood myself but it does happen a lot. It used to make me worry because I'd look around me and see all my friends having no problem easily finding men they wanted to go out with, while it took me a long time to find someone I was interested in. I don't know...I know from a lot of my friends points of view they don't like the feeling of being without someone, whereas I take time between relationships to enjoy being on my own and looking for something I feel is absolutely worth the wait. I know what you mean that everyone seems to be involved and there's never a 'gap' but that's probably a signal you two wouldn't click anyway. I know I wouldn't like to date someone who found it tough being on their own.
meerkat stew Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Men do it too, it's thoroughly disgusting behavior, and if I get a whiff of that level of insecurity in a prospective GF, I'm gone instantly. Interestingly, based on threads here recently, have realized this is much more of a hot button for me than how many sex partners she has had in the past. Have learned to ask about this specifically without tipping my hand. It's highly indicative of personality disorders and all sorts of other bad character traits also. Also, most people who have had few gaps between relationships are cheaters. They will rationalize it many different ways, doesn't change what they are.
lino Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 They never let relationships have a "gap" they let them overlap....any women guilty of that in here or EVER have been? Guys, agree? I agree totally. I've experienced it myself before too. Any female that is average looking or better is almost incapable of being truly single for any period of time. For women that are really ugly, it is a very different story.
betamanlet Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I'm am witnessing this myself.....heard it stated my a comedian somwhere. lol That women are like monkeys, just like relationships, they won't let go of the last branch , until they get a firm grip on a new one. They never let relationships have a "gap" they let them overlap....any women guilty of that in here or EVER have been? Guys, agree? Not all women do that. I know women who go months and months without having a new boyfriend. However, women who do this, are the types that are not single for more than 5 minutes in their lives, making them inherently unfaithful, because they secure the replacement before they dump the current one. So a woman who is constantly in a relationship is a red flag.
Bejita463 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Now let me finish this banana and get back to u... Webcam or it didn't happen.
Leia Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I'm am witnessing this myself.....heard it stated my a comedian somwhere. lol That women are like monkeys, just like relationships, they won't let go of the last branch , until they get a firm grip on a new one. They never let relationships have a "gap" they let them overlap....any women guilty of that in here or EVER have been? Guys, agree? I totally agree with you!!!! What is up with that?!
New_Life08 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 It was about 8 months after my divorce was final that I dated someone, and about 5 months after I stopped dating him that I dated the one I am with now. I didn't know any of them before the break-ups with the others. But like you say, some ppl will not leave a relationship until they have another to fall into. This goes for men and women alike.
donnamaybe Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I'm am witnessing this myself.....heard it stated my a comedian somwhere. lol That women are like monkeys, just like relationships, they won't let go of the last branch , until they get a firm grip on a new one. They never let relationships have a "gap" they let them overlap....any women guilty of that in here or EVER have been? Guys, agree? Nope. In fact, I had a WONDERFUL time when I was single and free and had sworn off relationships for a couple years. Then again, I'm not one of those "helpless female" types who NEEDS a man to pay her way.
Sam Spade Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I agree with Meerkat that this is probably a red flag... Not having any space between relationships by definition prevents any introspection and self-awareness. Not to mention that this is also - by definition - cheating, since it is simply not possible to hit the ground running in a new relationship unless some preparatory work has already been done (at the very least - mentally) while in the previous relationship. My actual experience also confirms this to some extent - ex-gf == mess. multiple boyfriends, longest gap between relationships less than a year, was "friends" with some shcmo before dumping me, got with schmo within a few weeks. Current gf == mellowest, sanest girl ever; 2 boyfriends, shortest gap between relationships almost 2 years. (Naturally, there is an obvious direct correlation between number of partners and monkey approach to relationships.)
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I monkeyed around when I was younger, right up until the last serious relationship I had after my marriage. Then I was forced into singlehood by illness for at least two years. Spent that time sorting out my head, etc. With someone now and am grateful for that gap in time. I really wasn't ready to be with someone. I can say this - monkeying doesn't make for solid relationships. It is just carting around your baggage from one man to the next.
RedDevil66 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I agree totally. I've experienced it myself before too. Any female that is average looking or better is almost incapable of being truly single for any period of time. For women that are really ugly, it is a very different story. Wel let's blow your theory out of the water. I am very good looking, am 43 and took 2 yrs between and 1 yrs between my 3 long term relationships. Now, the men I've been with, well they were about 2-4 weeks single before I started to date them. I find men have more fears about being alone than women. When I left my BF 2 yrs ago for 8 weeks, he called a girl the next day and was with her 3 weeks later. So guess the whole "women can't be alone" is BS
Woggle Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Women also usually have multiple branches they are swinging on during a relationship.
TheLoneSock Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Guys, agree? Yes, I agree. Though there are a select few women who are strong in character and are ok with being single in between, and take time out. They are often also the ones that are keepers.
phineas Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Have learned to ask about this specifically without tipping my hand. It's highly indicative of personality disorders and all sorts of other bad character traits also. Also, most people who have had few gaps between relationships are cheaters. They will rationalize it many different ways, doesn't change what they are. My STBXW was like this. I didn't find out until after she was out of the house & I was packing up her ****. She had a scrap book I didn't know about. Just from looking at it, the longest time span between pictures of her & some guy was 4 months & that was the guy she was dateing when she met me. So I guess this theory holds accurate in my situation.
TheLoneSock Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 So guess the whole "women can't be alone" is BS It's not BS, it's true. Both men and women in this thread alone have confirmed it through experience. You are the exception, not the rule. That doesn't 'blow' this theory out of the water at all.
betamanlet Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Yes, I agree. Though there are a select few women who are strong in character and are ok with being single in between, and take time out. They are often also the ones that are keepers. Single has different meanings for different people. For alpha males and women, single means they just don't want to commit, so they casually date, and have casual sex. For betas, single means no dates, no sex. It's like the french term is more proper for betas, as when they say they are single, they say they are celibataire, which is not the case for women and alpha males.
DiscoChick Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I agree. Although I dated a guy for eight months and waited over two years to get into my next relationship, I have seen women do exactly what is described. I have a friend that "talks' to several different men at one time in different cities. I have never and probably will never understand the need for this. I broke up with my ex a week before Christmas, but I have no plans of entering into a relationship any time soon. Relationships are emotionally draining for me.
Knittress Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Whatever, people! My ex (MALE) did this to me, so let's not get all misogynist here. It's just a habit of insecure people who are more interested in finding a person to fill a role in their lives, rather than seeking a true partner. It's about needing someone-anyone and not about wanting a particular individual. It's pathetic and it's approaching relationships from a place of weakness rather that strength, and it pisses me off too - but let's not comfort ourselves with b/s, here.
DiscoChick Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I'm am witnessing this myself.....heard it stated my a comedian somwhere. lol That women, similar to monkeys, won't let go of the last branch (relationship), until they get a firm grip on a new one. I have no idea where that was said originally, but Ambrose says this in Mission Impossible 2. It was a great tension-killer.
singleguy123 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Exactly.. Many women are ALWAYS dating someone, but still might consider themselves "single", as in not married.
betamanlet Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Exactly.. Many women are ALWAYS dating someone, but still might consider themselves "single", as in not married. That's one of the things that separates an alpha from a beta. When a beta hears a woman say "boyfriend" or "fiance", he loses interest, while it doesn't deter an alpha. Plenty of women will shop around while they are with someone. I dated some chick several years ago, and she told me how her parents met. They were both dating different people, who all decided to go on a double date, so her mom was dating someone else, and her father was dating someone else. They met at this double date, liked each other, and of course this means that they either must have (1) immediately broke up with their current partners or (2) at least emotionally cheated, and likely more, then got together officially. I didn't say anything when she told me this story, but it was a red flag to me. An alpha male isn't deterred by if a woman says she's taken, and he's more likely to get her for that reason. Society rewards infidelity.
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