mrichards Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He went overseas for work at the end of last year so we have done the last 3 months long distance. Before he left he said he really needed to do this for his career but he still wanted us to stay together, he would be back in 9 months and we would be able to start our lives together properly. While we were doing long distance we had a few fights, but I was surprised that it was not harder (I thought it would be hard, he thought it would be easy). We caught up over Christmas and everything was completely normal and we were talking about our future in 6 months when he comes home. We spent heaps of time together and it was just like normal. A few days later he called me and broke up with me over the phone (despite the fact that we were in the same country). He said he did not want to do long distance anymore. He then refused to speak to me or answer my phonecalls for a week. We eventually spoke just before he had to go back to work overseas. He told me that he didn't want me to think this is the end of us and we will "see what happens". He told me he still loves me but cannot do long distance. This guy has been my best friend and boyfriend for the past three years. I don't understand what has happened. What should I do?
HLP234 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Only one thing to do, just move on. You don't want to be sitting there hoping for anything that may happen. I was told the same thing by my ex, that she didn't know what she wanted and wanted to see if we were meant to be, by taking a break from each other. The selfish and rude thing that happened was she never said **** and just moved on, no talk of ok its over, or letting me know she has someone else. I found out through other ways and it hurts a lot. So try to be yourself and don't look forward to anything from him.
MarcMann Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 we will "see what happens". I had that one too. But then she found someone else within the next month. So yeah, don't wait for him to come around just move on. And focus on yourself.
gaudi Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 So the person who thought the LDR would be easy is the one who has decided it isn't eh ?? I wouldn't be surprised if you heard from him quite soon to be honest. But as the others here have said. Moving on without him is the only way. It hurts I know, but has to be done for you. He's doing things for himself, so should you.
HLP234 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 All talk they give you means nothing..if you look at it from your point of view you would understand that if they really cared they would not be doing this. Its just a way to let you down easy so that in case something happens in the future, you don't hate him. Don't wait for anyone once you hear the words "time, break, I need to figure myself out, I love you but I don't know what I want," its all just nonsense selfish talk.
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