Vintage79 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Was chatting with some of my friends earlier today about who they like to date, and one said he generally tries to find women who are at most, as educated as he is - more educated just doesn't work. That said, i was wondering if this is typical. Do guys prefer to date women who are more educated than themselves, or less educated? And I guess, why not, ladies, do you prefer dating guys who are more or less educated than yourself. Just curious, as I always hear different views. I actually kind of curious, as one of my lady frinds is an MD, and it would be interested to get a better flavor of her persepctive.
tami-chan Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 hmm.. why would that be a turn off? or for that matter a turn on? I hope the men would answer..I am curious!
TheLoneSock Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 There is no such thing as overly-educated. Not in a man or a woman. To answer your post as I think you intended me to: No, an educated woman does not intimidate me, it is a turn on. In fact I have found myself more and more making education a minimum standard in women I'm interested in. This didn't use to be so. But things have changed from when I was 21.
start-fresh Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Personally, as a guy I prefer to date women that have goals in life and are 'going somewhere' if you will. A lot of times that comes with some type of higher education. Sometimes it doesn't. I don't meet a lot of women with a higher degree than I have (a bachelors) but I would find it attractive if it's a degree that she can actually use for something. Education can come in a lot of forms. Degrees are only one way.
Johnny M Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Was chatting with some of my friends earlier today about who they like to date, and one said he generally tries to find women who are at most, as educated as he is - more educated just doesn't work. That said, i was wondering if this is typical. Do guys prefer to date women who are more educated than themselves, or less educated? And I guess, why not, ladies, do you prefer dating guys who are more or less educated than yourself. The problem is not their education but rather the air of superiority that such women often carry themselves with. Although I'm quite well educated myself, I simply cannot stand people who think education makes them superior to the 'unwashed masses'. On top of that, many (but not all) 'overly educated' women lean towards feminism, which is a huge turnoff in and of itself.
tami-chan Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 The problem is not their education but rather the air of superiority that such women often carry themselves with. Although I'm quite well educated myself, I simply cannot stand people who think education makes them superior to the 'unwashed masses'. On top of that, many (but not all) 'overly educated' women lean towards feminism, which is a huge turnoff in and of itself. Ahhh...so it has something to do with the "air of superiority"...so you would date a woman who has, say,a JD but does not have that air about her but earns way more than you?
threebyfate Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 There is no such thing as overly-educated. Not in a man or a woman.Good answer and I agree!
start-fresh Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 The problem is not their education but rather the air of superiority that such women often carry themselves with. Although I'm quite well educated myself, I simply cannot stand people who think education makes them superior to the 'unwashed masses'. On top of that, many (but not all) 'overly educated' women lean towards feminism, which is a huge turnoff in and of itself. Personally, I haven't really experienced that, but my college degree is a respectable one that takes a lot of work. I think it all depends on the person. There are men and women that think their degree makes them better than someone else, but I've met plenty of arrogant pricks that barely made it out of high school, too.
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 There is such a thing a overly educated. For example, what about those people who have Bachelors degrees in 3 unrelated fields? It shows indicisivness and inability to commit to something. For me, I prefer educated as long as education follows some sort of linear fashion. And yes some men can feel uncomfrotble around women more educated than they are. Although rather than intimidation, I think it's an inherent incompatibility in the way the two perceive the world.
Woggle Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Most educated women tend to be feminists who are completely incapable of having a lasting and successful relationship. A man is better off marrying a waitress or a woman who is less educated and successful than he is.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Was chatting with some of my friends earlier today about who they like to date, and one said he generally tries to find women who are at most, as educated as he is - more educated just doesn't work. That said, i was wondering if this is typical. Do guys prefer to date women who are more educated than themselves, or less educated? And I guess, why not, ladies, do you prefer dating guys who are more or less educated than yourself. Just curious, as I always hear different views. I actually kind of curious, as one of my lady frinds is an MD, and it would be interested to get a better flavor of her persepctive. I am currently dating a PhD student from UC Berkeley. I only got a bachelor's. I don't know what she sees in me. Besides the obvious... I mean c'mon! I find that overly educated women to be attractive. I however, do not like it when they are arrogant about it!
Johnny M Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Ahhh...so it has something to do with the "air of superiority"...so you would date a woman who has, say,a JD but does not have that air about her but earns way more than you? A woman with a JD is not a good example because I prefer not to date other lawyers (for reasons that have nothing to do with one's level education) but as a general proposition, I wouldn't have a problem with a woman who was more educated and made more money than I do. In fact, it would be nice for a change.
norajane Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I however, do not like it when they are arrogant about it! Arrogance about anything isn't attractive. Whether someone is arrogant about their formal education, looks, status, dick size, boob size, job, car, wealth...I don't think it's the actual attribute that is unattractive, but their attitude about it that can be a turn-off. That said, I think it's an odd thing to question. Would anyone ask if overly-beautiful is a turn-off? Overly-wealthy? I love smart men - the smarter they are, the more I'm attracted to them! I realize that smart and educated aren't always the same thing, but then, I don't generally lead-off with "how many degrees do you have?" on a first date. Smart comes through in a conversation pretty quickly without needing credentials.
counterman Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Yep, it is when they are arrogant about it that turns me off. There was this girl who studies the same course as me but carries herself around with this air of superiority. Basically, we had group work together and she would want to take on all the work herself as she said she would probably do a better job than all of us combined. She was really, REALLY snarky towards me especially until I gave a killer presentation and then you know what? She starts to warm towards me and tells me straight "you really impressed me!". Screw that. In saying that, I love to pick an educated girl's brain.
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Norajane, Some study has found that there is moderate correlation between education and intelligence. I have definetly met some idiots with PhDs and vice versa. It is hard for me to respect a man if I sense that he is less intelligent than me (regardless of education). Also, I prefer people with astute life observations to book intelligence. There are people who have lots of education and general knowledge but lack life experience so they come across as pretty dull...
Author Vintage79 Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 (edited) I am currently dating a PhD student from UC Berkeley. I only got a bachelor's. I don't know what she sees in me. Besides the obvious... I mean c'mon! Nice, I was once a PhD student at UC Berkeley - and yes, I dated PhD student from UC Berkeley, now I'm lost in what's frequently considered the top MBA program in the world - yes, over educated, pretty much by any metric. Seeing that I posted this thread, I might as well comment - I was confused by my friend's comment - my last girlfriend actually had two doctorate degrees, and I usually won't date some one unless they have a JD/MBA/PhD/MD from a very, very top notch program. There's really a self selection process involved, sure, probably some superiority aspects, but it's a different way of thinking. When I date bachelor's it seems like I'm slumming it, and doing it just to find the cool dive bar, or because they're hot. I guess that would put me into the equivalent category of arrogant woman - but I can see where they're coming from. Edited January 12, 2010 by Vintage79
threebyfate Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Much of it boils down to ego. Can your ego handle that "a girl" has a better education? It's really rare for women to be bothered, if their man has a higher level of education, whether the man is arrogant or not.
Johnny M Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 It's really rare for women to be bothered, if their man has a higher level of education, whether the man is arrogant or not. That's because women frequently see arrogance as a positive trait (as long as its not directed at them). They confuse arrogance with confidence.
lord alfred douglas Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I fail to see the connection other than level education An MD and a JD are worlds apart as is a PhD Youre just more turned on by the level of education than the substance of it? I find the sexiest personalities in women have elements of being highly articulate with a quick sense of humor and theres usually some education behind that, but not always
tami-chan Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Nice, I was once a PhD student at UC Berkeley - and yes, I dated PhD student from UC Berkeley, now I'm lost in what's frequently considered the top MBA program in the world - yes, over educated, pretty much by any metric. Seeing that I posted this thread, I might as well comment - I was confused by my friend's comment - my last girlfriend actually had two doctorate degrees, and I usually won't date some one unless they have a JD/MBA/PhD/MD from a very, very top notch program. There's really a self selection process involved, sure, probably some superiority aspects, but it's a different way of thinking. When I date bachelor's it seems like I'm slumming it, and doing it just to find the cool dive bar, or because they're hot. I guess that would put me into the equivalent category of arrogant woman - but I can see where they're coming from. yes, quite arrogant...but what if you fell for someone and she ,you, until she found out she earns more than you and tells you, it's over because she couldn't possibly be with anyone who is beneath her, earnings wise-would that be a bummer?
threebyfate Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 That's because women frequently see arrogance as a positive trait (as long as its not directed at them). They confuse arrogance with confidence.No, women with half a brain or more, can tell the difference, which would be the vast majority of women. As a man, you cannot speak for a woman and how our minds work or how we feel.
Johnny M Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 No, women with half a brain or more, can tell the difference, which would be the vast majority of women. As a man, you cannot speak for a woman and how our minds work or how we feel. Sure I can. It's called power of observation.
threebyfate Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Sure I can. It's called power of observation.You go on believing you have superior powers, speaking of arrogance and condescension...
Johnny M Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 You go on believing you have superior powers, speaking of arrogance and condescension... One doesn't need superior powers to see the obvious
threebyfate Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I find the sexiest personalities in women have elements of being highly articulate with a quick sense of humor and theres usually some education behind that, but not alwaysIt depends on how you define the word "articulate".
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