eternal.denied84 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 guys.. past 6 months have been the worst phase of my life and i am still not recovering..my gf broke up with me..and i kept it dragging for past 6 months which i know is pathetic..every time i call with expectations that somehow she would start feeling for me and everytime she treat me very bad..i feel so insulted going to this girl..at time i feel i shud hit myself going for a girl who has been mistreating me like anything.. i am not able to understand how should i control my emotions?i have tried everything possible on this earth. can anyone help me out? am i the worst possible case of disorder?
USMCHokie Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 You "hate" yourself so much because you value yourself based on how others (i.e. your ex) value you. Your worth has to come from within. Until you understand that, you may never find the happiness you're looking for. Do yourself a favor and stop talking to this girl. If you've been on this track for 6 months, take a hint...I know you've read posts in the Coping forum. What you're doing won't help you at all. But it'll get worse before it can get better...you just have to set your emotions aside for a little while, feel the pain of NC, and allow yourself to heal and find happiness again.
Elizabrary Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Stop beating yourself up. Put yourself first, and half the battle is won. I want to contact my good-for-nothing STBXH like anything, but I refuse. It's out of sheer stubborness and my decision that I want my dignity and self-respect back. It's hard and I have bad days, but each day that I make it through without contacting him is a victory. I want to find someone who treats me the way I deserve, and he is not that man. Stay busy, focus on getting yourself healthy and DO NOT contact this person- she is poison. Hang in there!
gaudi Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Forget all bout her, you've been trying to get her to see it your way for six whole months, and guess what ?? She doesn't want to know !!! The only thing for you to do is work on yourself and the person you are capable of being without her. You do not need her. She is not the one for you. The longer you think about her the longer you deny yourself from the world. And you know what you are capable of, great things, we all are...........good luck mate.
GrayClouds Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 guys.. past 6 months have been the worst phase of my life and i am still not recovering..my gf broke up with me..and i kept it dragging for past 6 months which i know is pathetic..every time i call with expectations that somehow she would start feeling for me and everytime she treat me very bad..i feel so insulted going to this girl..at time i feel i shud hit myself going for a girl who has been mistreating me like anything.. i am not able to understand how should i control my emotions?i have tried everything possible on this earth. can anyone help me out? am i the worst possible case of disorder? Step One: Read the following: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? Step Two: Do the following: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? Step Three: Buy and Read the Following: Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson Likely your are not only trying to get over a break up but dealing with some other crap that has happen in your life that makes it especially difficult to let go. This book will help you with both. Read it and do the exercises (and start getting some really exercise every day too) along with goiing NC and focusing on yourself. It will get better and so will you.
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