b52s Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I have seen this expression uttered by women most times. Seen it on Facebook and MS status. But what does it mean, does it depend on what "worst" is? Is this a dating/romance analogy?
New_Life08 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I think it is speaking of unconditional love.
tami-chan Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 LOL....deserve? I think that person actually knows that she has a crappy attitude and does not deserve anything good.
thats what i said Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I think when the person is "at their best" it's supposed to be very rewarding and a really great experience that not everyone gets to share with them... but in order to deserve that super awesome experience, you have to be able to deal with them at their worst too. lol, I don't really know. Just pulled that one out of nowhere.
Angel1111 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I think it's one of the dumbest statements I've heard in a long time.
meerkat stew Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 It means there is going to be a lot of "worst" and very little if any "best."
threebyfate Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Bells, you've had 95 threads in barely over two months. What exactly are you trying to understand about dating? It's not rocket science. Boy meets girl and they hit it off. They date. Sometimes it turns into a relationship, other times it doesn't. Sometimes relationships turn into engagements and other times they don't. Sometimes engagements turn into marriage and sometimes they don't. Sometimes those marriages last until death and sometimes they don't. Instead of picking apart every online dating profile or social network profile you see, why not ask these girls out for a real life date and see where it goes.
CaliGuy Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Marilyn Monroe quote and she wasn't as ditsy as people made her out to be. It means that she's not perfect and if you can't accept that then you can beat it. And frankly, I agre with her 100%.
Johnny M Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I have seen this expression uttered by women most times. Seen it on Facebook and MS status. But what does it mean, does it depend on what "worst" is? Is this a dating/romance analogy? Basically, it's an excuse for being disrespectful and acting like b!tch.
Anela Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Marilyn Monroe quote and she wasn't as ditsy as people made her out to be. It means that she's not perfect and if you can't accept that then you can beat it. And frankly, I agre with her 100%. I agree with her, too. Generally, when I'm at my worse, it's because I've been disrespected/messed around with.
aerogurl87 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Basically, it's an excuse for being disrespectful and acting like b!tch. I like to think of it more as a forewarning than an excuse. When I first met my ex boyfriend I told him straight up that I could be a narcisstic bitch at times. One would think that would've made him run for the hills but he stayed around. My bitchy times came, but overall I was sweet and nice. So I think what it really means is "look I'm not going to be all nice 24/7 so if you can't handle being around me when the chips are down then you better hit the highway".
Johnny M Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 My bitchy times came, but overall I was sweet and nice. See, that's you making excuses for your sh*tty attitude. "I can be a narcissistic bitch, but really, I'm not a bad person. I'm a 'nice girl' overall. Even my ex agreed." Instead of striving to become a better person, you're rationalizing your narcissism.
aerogurl87 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 See, that's you making excuses for your sh*tty attitude. "I can be a narcissistic bitch, but really, I'm not a bad person. I'm a 'nice girl' overall. Even my ex agreed." Instead of striving to become a better person, you're rationalizing your narcissism. Umm my ex wasn't a saint himself. He was manipulative at times, overemotional, and an a**hole himself. But I loved and still love him as he is. I wouldn't have him any other way as he wouldn't have me change who I am. And I'm not a bad person really. And yes I love myself, maybe a little too much at times, but I'm a person who loves arrogance. I became a better person after being with my ex in that I became less selfish, more empathetic, and alot more patient. But I can still be a narcisstic bitch at times and I doubt that's going to change completely.
Simon Attwood Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 It's a warning! It's a semi-conscious admission of "The Shadow" side of her personality, but also an admission that she has no control over it. It says "be prepared to experience my demons".
BentSpine Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 (edited) I share the point of view made by Johnny M as well as some other posters. Johnny M was spot on and beat me to the punch with his post below: See, that's you making excuses for your sh*tty attitude. "I can be a narcissistic bitch, but really, I'm not a bad person. I'm a 'nice girl' overall. Even my ex agreed." Instead of striving to become a better person, you're rationalizing your narcissism. Now the following is an interesting remark: And I'm not a bad person really.This comment is a classic. But it cannot really be taken at face value. Read about Two Gun Crowley in Dale Carnegie's book "How To Win Friends And Influence Someone". Then you can come back and point out how I have learnt nothing from the book. Edited January 12, 2010 by BentSpine
Author b52s Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 Bells, you've had 95 threads in barely over two months. What exactly are you trying to understand about dating? It's not rocket science. Boy meets girl and they hit it off. They date. Sometimes it turns into a relationship, other times it doesn't. Sometimes relationships turn into engagements and other times they don't. Sometimes engagements turn into marriage and sometimes they don't. Sometimes those marriages last until death and sometimes they don't. Instead of picking apart every online dating profile or social network profile you see, why not ask these girls out for a real life date and see where it goes. Who is this "Bells" character??
Author b52s Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 See, that's you making excuses for your sh*tty attitude. "I can be a narcissistic bitch, but really, I'm not a bad person. I'm a 'nice girl' overall. Even my ex agreed." Instead of striving to become a better person, you're rationalizing your narcissism. Right...you see, and Marilyn Monroe wasn't much of a role model, but for some people women are looking up to her. She was a bimbo that slept with married men. I think this "Marilyn Monroe" is popular because it gives women an excuse to treat people like crap, so you might hardly ever see them at their "Best" I responded to the FB quote (from a chronically single woman) with "depends on the worst" just to see what she would say, she said, "Doesn't matter on what it depends on!" Which kind of tells ya something right there. I know in relationships / marriage it's for "Better or for worse" but, in this case, I think it's giving an excuse for women to treat men like crap.
temple Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 To me this sort of thing sounds like something an angry bitter ex would say after they've just been dumped ... either way definitely not the best thing to START a relationship on
BWLoca Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I would think it means something more along the lines of "don't just be around for the good times." Fair weather friend and such...
You'reasian Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Umm my ex wasn't a saint himself. He was manipulative at times, overemotional, and an a**hole himself. . You must have brought that out of him. But I loved and still love him as he is. I wouldn't have him any other way as he wouldn't have me change who I am. And I'm not a bad person really. And yes I love myself, maybe a little too much at times, but I'm a person who loves arrogance. I became a better person after being with my ex in that I became less selfish, more empathetic, and alot more patient. But I can still be a narcisstic bitch at times and I doubt that's going to change completely. Good on you.
Angel1111 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Marilyn Monroe quote and she wasn't as ditsy as people made her out to be. It means that she's not perfect and if you can't accept that then you can beat it. And frankly, I agre with her 100%. Maybe the idea is ok, but the statement is badly worded.
Johnny M Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Umm my ex wasn't a saint himself. He was manipulative at times, overemotional, and an a**hole himself. But I loved and still love him as he is. I wouldn't have him any other way as he wouldn't have me change who I am. And I'm not a bad person really. And yes I love myself, maybe a little too much at times, but I'm a person who loves arrogance. I became a better person after being with my ex in that I became less selfish, more empathetic, and alot more patient. But I can still be a narcisstic bitch at times and I doubt that's going to change completely. Interesting. So let me get this straight. By your own admission, you are are a selfish and narcissistic b*tch, who thinks that arrogance is a positive character trait. You admire manipulative, overemotional *******s. But your are not a "bad person". So what does one have to be in order to be considered "bad" in your book? A child molester?
aerogurl87 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Interesting. So let me get this straight. By your own admission, you are are a selfish and narcissistic b*tch, who thinks that arrogance is a positive character trait. You admire manipulative, overemotional *******s. But your are not a "bad person". So what does one have to be in order to be considered "bad" in your book? A child molester? I like arrogance, and yeah to most it's a very negative trait but I need someone who thinks extremely highly of themselves, gives me a challenge. I never said I admired my ex's traits necessarily but I dealt with them. I'm not in the business of changing people so I figured either I had to accept him as he was or I could move on. I chose to accept him as is. And to me what constitutes someone as being bad involves lots of factors other than a person's personality traits. I'm a mild narcissist and although I have my moments, for the most part I'm a down to earth, loyal, and extremely caring person. Is that contradictory? Maybe, but hey, I'm full of contradictions and don't fit one specific label.
Mr White Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I have seen this expression uttered by women most times. Seen it on Facebook and MS status. But what does it mean, does it depend on what "worst" is? Is this a dating/romance analogy? This proclamation is a legitimate red flag, since it indicates complete unwillingness to even try to behave in a civilized manner when one is at "their worst". Most of us, when we are at our "worst" try to minimize the impact on the people around us and protect them rather than lash out on them in full force. So, basically this line tells me that the person in question is completely inconsiderate of others, but I should like them anyway because once in a blue moon they are very pleasant to be around. However, according to the interpretation I just provided, this is by definition impossible. So, no go.
carhill Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Bells, you've had 95 threads in barely over two months. What exactly are you trying to understand about dating? It's not rocket science. LOL, the last iteration had 174 threads so hopefully we're over halfway home, and, from the looks of my responses in that series, I was probably at my worst IMO, the caption in the OP is situational. It could denote personality; it could denote behavior; it could denote life circumstance; it could denote many things. We each bring our own experiences to bear when taking it in and considering it. IMO, if you hear it from a woman, it's fair warning. Accept that
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