det Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 I'm 19, my boyfriend is 21. I still live at my parents house, as I attend a local college. My boy & I are in a long distance relationship, & haven't met yet, but are scheduled to in mid-march. I just told my dad about it today, because I planned on buying my plane ticket tmrw. He freaked out horribly, told me I'm banned from talking to this boy, end it now, blah blah blah. But, I'm terrified that if I don't do what he says, I will be kicked out of the house, & I'm not financially able to live on my own yet. My boyfriend lives in the UK, I in America, and I'm going to have to tell him we have to break up. This is killing me, I'm going to be severely depressed, I can already tell. And I know he will too. I need advice on what to say to him?? I do love him, but I can't go against my dads wishes. Btw, my dad has his mind firmly made up, & there is no way I could continue on with my boyfriend. I mean, maybe years down the line, when I am financially independent, and can make my own decisions. :/ But I don't see that happening, after I break this news to him. Please help!!
Sparkling Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 I'm 19, my boyfriend is 21. I still live at my parents house, as I attend a local college. My boy & I are in a long distance relationship, & haven't met yet, but are scheduled to in mid-march. I just told my dad about it today, because I planned on buying my plane ticket tmrw. He freaked out horribly, told me I'm banned from talking to this boy, end it now, blah blah blah. But, I'm terrified that if I don't do what he says, I will be kicked out of the house, & I'm not financially able to live on my own yet. My boyfriend lives in the UK, I in America, and I'm going to have to tell him we have to break up. This is killing me, I'm going to be severely depressed, I can already tell. And I know he will too. I need advice on what to say to him?? I do love him, but I can't go against my dads wishes. Btw, my dad has his mind firmly made up, & there is no way I could continue on with my boyfriend. I mean, maybe years down the line, when I am financially independent, and can make my own decisions. :/ But I don't see that happening, after I break this news to him. Please help!! Quite clearly you don't love your boyfriend as much as you think you do or you wouldn't even consider breaking up with him just because your dad told you to. Your dad freaked because you would be going to another country to see a guy unknown to him, and to your dad's way of thinking that is a huge risk to your safety. I was thinking about this in regard to another thread I am in where the Indians send their females to another country to be married to a man they don't know for social status and profit for the males parents, and call this "protecting their women." Your dad IS trying to protect you and it isn't just a show he is putting on. Just in relationship to this other thread, I was wondering if you are white, black, or Indian...or something else. It is nice to see a dad genuinely protective of his daughter. Why is it on this forum it is 'generally' the female having to make the move to see the male in an LDR that I see happening? Your UK bf could come stay at a motel or hotel near you and meet your dad so your dad can judge for himself his character. You could meet him with your dad in tow at some neutral place other than your home. It sounds as if your mind is already made up and you have to break up with him, so other than that I am not sure how to help you.
Lovin a scrapper Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Sparkling. Just out of curiosity, are you in an LDR? If you have mentioned it before then I apologize.
Sparkling Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Sparkling. Just out of curiosity, are you in an LDR? If you have mentioned it before then I apologize. I haven't mentioned it, but yes I am.
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