XKatieX Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 (edited) I made another thread before about how i haven't seen my boyfriend in 4 months because of a new job he has. Well a few days ago he said he would come see me on his day off (which is tomorrow) We hadn't spoken to each other since, he only had a few mins today to talk to me before he went to work. I asked him if he was still coming tomorrow, he said he didn't know..and seemed like he was making an excuse because I said i was having furniture delievered and I needed to be up sorta early. He said we can just do it another week, putting it off. He just sounded like he didn't really want to see me, so I don't know why he said he would in the first place. I am seriously thinking if he doesn't come tomorrow that might be the last straw for me, but I'm going back and forth. I also wrote him a message the other day telling him how I felt, that I wanted to try and get back what we lost. When I asked him if he thought we could, he said he didn't know..that he doesn't have the time like he used to, that it would be hard to get something back that has been pushed away. Anyways, I just thought we could work around this whole thing, but now I'm thinking how can it work with someone I don't get to see and now I don't even get to talk to..only every 3 or 4 days at a time, and I only get a chance to talk to them for as little as 5 minutes? Its just crazy, and the pain is unbearable. I don't want to lose him at all. I want to know what you all think, do you think that holding on to him is wrong when i feel this way, or do you think I should just wait it out? Thanks. Edited January 11, 2010 by XKatieX
Sparkling Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 I made another thread before about how i haven't seen my boyfriend in 4 months because of a new job he has. Well a few days ago he said he would come see me on his day off (which is tomorrow) We hadn't spoken to each other since, he only had a few mins today to talk to me before he went to work. I asked him if he was still coming tomorrow, he said he didn't know..and seemed like he was making an excuse because I said i was having furniture delievered and I needed to be up sorta early. He said we can just do it another week, putting it off. He just sounded like he didn't really want to see me, so I don't know why he said he would in the first place. I am seriously thinking if he doesn't come tomorrow that might be the last straw for me, but I'm going back and forth. I also wrote him a message the other day telling him how I felt, that I wanted to try and get back what we lost. When I asked him if he thought we could, he said he didn't know..that he doesn't have the time like he used to, that it would be hard to get something back that has been pushed away. Anyways, I just thought we could work around this whole thing, but now I'm thinking how can it work with someone I don't get to see and now I don't even get to talk to..only every 3 or 4 days at a time, and I only get a chance to talk to them for as little as 5 minutes? Its just crazy, and the pain is unbearable. I don't want to lose him at all. I want to know what you all think, do you think that holding on to him is wrong when i feel this way, or do you think I should just wait it out? Thanks. I think one of the best things you could do since he is too BUSY to spend time with you or even make quality time to be with you is get out and see other people. He isn't treating you respectably! He even says he isn't eager to try to get back what you lost...so, take him at his word and move on. You can find someone out there who treats you a whole lot better than he is. By the way, is he calling you on those days you talk or are you calling him and being forced off after around five minutes or less? It is time to move on and don't wait around for him. Get out and have some fun and meet someone new!!!! This guy isn't treating you with love or respect.
Author XKatieX Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 (edited) I think one of the best things you could do since he is too BUSY to spend time with you or even make quality time to be with you is get out and see other people. He isn't treating you respectably! He even says he isn't eager to try to get back what you lost...so, take him at his word and move on. You can find someone out there who treats you a whole lot better than he is. By the way, is he calling you on those days you talk or are you calling him and being forced off after around five minutes or less? It is time to move on and don't wait around for him. Get out and have some fun and meet someone new!!!! This guy isn't treating you with love or respect. Its been me lately initiating the contact. After I called him to ask if he got my message, and what he thought of it, he later said he wanted to see me on the webcam. Then he told me that he couldn't because worked called him in, but that he would make it up to me by seeing me on his day off. I was really happy when he told me this but somehow I knew that it probably wasn't going to happen. He just builds me up and tears me down sometimes Edited January 11, 2010 by XKatieX
Sparkling Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Its been me lately initiating the contact. After I called him to ask if he got my message, and what he thought of it, he later said he wanted to see me on the webcam. Then he told me that he couldn't because worked called him in, but that he would make it up to me by seeing me on his day off. I was really happy when he told me this but somehow I knew that it probably wasn't going to happen. He just builds me up and tears me down sometimes I am sorry he treats you that way. You deserve better, you really do. I wouldn't contact him at all, and I would make sure I kept myself busy and occupied so you aren't sitting there waiting on someone who doesn't show up. You are being pushed aside and of course it hurts. I think it is time for you to move on..., just let him wonder where you went!! Have fun!!
Author XKatieX Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 Thank you sparkling. I've almost reached my breaking point, I'm going to see if he does end up coming tomorrow. If he does then I will know that he does want to try. If not, well then I'm just going to have to let him go. I can't be in a one-sided relationship anymore, its just too much. I'll let you know what happens.
Rollercoasterr Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 LDRs don't work. Let go. If you can't spout anything other than idiotic nonsense, then please, stay off the LDR forum. Obviously this isn't the place for you and instead of looking like a giant douche, just go away and we'll all be happier. Katie, I'm sorry you're going through this sweetie. How long has he been acting this way towards you?
Author XKatieX Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 If you can't spout anything other than idiotic nonsense, then please, stay off the LDR forum. Obviously this isn't the place for you and instead of looking like a giant douche, just go away and we'll all be happier. Katie, I'm sorry you're going through this sweetie. How long has he been acting this way towards you? Hey, thanks Rollercoasterr. Things haven't really been the same I'd say for a year and a half now. His brother passed away in July which of course has been a huge obstacle for him, and we have been fighting more..with the distance getting tougher. But I guess when it really just seemed like he didn't care one way or the other was when he got his new job, a couple months ago. Sending him the message to him about how I felt about all this seemed to relieve some stress, but it didn't change anything..he wasn't acting any different to me. I know that with the way things have been with us anyone would just say to let go, but something tells me that if I let him go that one day I would regret it. He's a very special person, and we have always had a bond like no other.
Tizzy Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 A year and a half of him acting like this? Let go. You will "bond" with other guys. Find someone who will treat you how you want to be treated.
Author XKatieX Posted January 12, 2010 Author Posted January 12, 2010 Hey guys thanks for the replies. Well he told me last night he didn't know if he was coming or not he didn't know what the point was in it, but that he would call me the next day to let me know. He called me and still didn't sound like he wanted to come too much, but he said he was. So he came and everything was fine for the first couple hours or so, then I just got this weird distant feeling, and I told he wasn't acting like he loved me anymore. I've been feeling this way for a while, so I can't help if I felt this way. He then said he was leaving. I asked him why and the first thing he said was because he was tired and wanted to sleep, then he said because I was acting childish by saying this after he came and saw me. I told him if you leave right now you're just proving me right, and he said no im just proving to you you'll never act any older than you are right now. I thought he would at least talk to me about it or come back, but nope just left my house, just like that. After he left I sent him an email about how I've tried so many times, and that maybe one day he will realize just how much hes taken me for granted, and hasn't been treating me right. So now I know what my head tells me to do, let him go..as everyone else is saying to do. 3 years waited to be together down the drain, just a broken relationship. Easier said than done I know.
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