MrFun Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Trust, no trust, going through letters and SMSs....that's weird behaviour, man. Let her enjoy her life and do whatever she likes. Give her the benefit of the doubt. She hasn't done anything, and so what even if she sexually enjoys this other guy's company. On the other hand, if you are getting too suspicious and annoyed, maybe you should find someone that won't make you suspicious. There's obviously a trust issue here. If you're putting in all this effort and wondering about your relationship, it's your feelings and your problem. Be a man, don't be reactive, be proactive. If you think she's wasting your time, move on to things that are worth your time. Go on a holiday, visit your mates, join a new club. Focus on things you enjoy. Either she'll want to be a part of it eventually or go found a woman that values you. And what ever you do, don't confront her. If she is thinking of cheating, there's nothing you can do about it. Nothing more asexual than a guy who sees problems when there are none.
Author chrizmz Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 thanks for all of the responses:) its just weird because she tells me alot about whats going on with her and then to keep this from me~hMmmm it kinda boggles my mind, i know she hasnt done anything with him because he's on the other side of the state, i did spot a text of her telling him she might have a meeting in February around where this guy lives:( then she put a smiley face at the end of it:( im just going to keep our relationship going and if she starts acting funny and tells me about this trip or meeting on the other side of the state~then i might say something. see im still thinking about asking her about the bookmark because that is weird to bookmark one day and then take it off the next day:eek: then i also noticed in her history that she was looking at his photos again on myspace the other day when i was not here:eek: i thought she can be slick but apparently not;)
Bubblicious Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I know how you must be feeling, it's happened to me as well and it's really hurtful. You want to believe your partner but you start to become paranoid and then checking for clues, which puts a strain on the relationship. You need to think about what you would do if she was doing something behind your back. Would you really want to know? I did and my friend suggested a site that was useful to http://www.spysupermarket.co.uk and it had products to help find out but it also had lots of really good articles. I bought the phone spy software. Have a look and see what you think. I'm single again now but rather than than with someone and knowing that they are cheating behind your back. Good luck:rolleyes: well the other day i was looking at girlfriends phone and checking out her texts,i saw a text from this person known as jaime~little did i know was that this character was a guy. i think she has only been talking to this person for about a week now.he was sending her his email so my girlfriend could do a search on myspace.i checked her history and she did a search on myspace & bookmarked his page. right so she can look at it. next thing you know the very next day the bookmark is gone:eek: i did not confront her on this but thats very weird to do something like this if its not a big deal. can you please be slicker:rolleyes: i checked out his page and he's whack, so i say to myself if she has nothing to hide why delete the bookmark of this jaime character. then today as she was getting ready and i went online and i see an email on her account of her texting from her phone last night a text from this jaime guy of him in uniform(photos). so here she goes hiding this text about this guy:mad: from the beginning of her relationship she said how she's an open book and she could be possessive. me i put my trust in her~I love her deeply and i have been so faithful to her that i cant imagine myself being with another woman. so im stuck at if i should confront her on this or just let it slide and bring it up later if she acts strange. Oh Yea as she was leaving for work she said i was not my usual self as i was very BLAAAAHHH:( she even called me 20 mins later asking what was wrong and if i have something to tell her. i think she knows that i have a hint about whats going on;) this whole situation is crazy because my girlfriend has told me she is an open book and now she's hiding these texts about this guy. why do that if there is nothing going on with you this guy??? which i dont think there is because i am always with her. this guy could be a potential cheatmate. also she has also told me how she cant stand cheating and it hurts her that people do it,she said she has never cheated before in her relationships. i am starting to wonder her true character~she has told me what happen to the humanity in relationships & marriages. it boggles my mind:eek: what should i do?any advice would be greatly appreciated
hurting_in_nw Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Jesus man stop with the passive-aggressive BS (this is why she's asking you if everything's alright all the time) and just ASK HER WHO HE IS.
Author chrizmz Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 (edited) she be flipping out saying im secretive because i never answer my phone in front of her and always have it on silent when im over at her house. she thinks im hiding something from her and i told her i have nothing to hide. i even let her go through my phone because im not hiding anything. but yet she says i can look through her phone but she doesnt know that i already do. i just tell her its fine, i almost feel like she wants me to act the way she does to me about her & her phone:rolleyes: its fine because my attitude has change about our relationship and im just going to go with the flow of our relationship:p i honestly feel like in my gut that she wants to have her cake & eat it too because im such a nice guy:) so far in our relationship i have been faithful but now i feel like its just a FWB but she wants me all to herself but thats not going to happen anymore i will just fine something on the side when she doesnt know,keep in mind she is very possesive & told me awhile ago its okay for her to have male friends but not me------LoL:laugh: shes a funny crazy woman whose amazing in bed:) women are so conniving Edited January 22, 2010 by chrizmz
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