dianna Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 4:35 am, message from him " god damn it i might regret this , but i miss you " I didn't reply.
bananaboat11 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 4:35 am, message from him " god damn it i might regret this , but i miss you " I didn't reply. You dump him?
bananaboat11 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 (edited) he dumped me 6 months ago ....they always come back. I'm a guy who is heart broken... dumped over facebook by a stupid girl. And as much as I believe she won't come back... she will. But remember this... do you really want someone who rejected you to be back in your life? Regardless of how good or poor the breakup was... it still occurred. Unless you TRULY, TRULY want it and are SURE he is ready to to make the SAME commitment you are... I say ignore it and move on for your own sake. Be strong. Don't hesitate to let go... Edited January 11, 2010 by bananaboat11
gaudi Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 4:35 am, message from him " god damn it i might regret this , but i miss you " I didn't reply. How long had it been since you last heard from him ?? Total NC the whole 6 months ??
bananaboat11 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 i would have killed to get that text!! lol I believe we all would... If you've been in no contact < 6 months.. it's still possible. sometimes... even up to a year or 2 (if you're lucky OR unlucky... depending on your situation)
Author dianna Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 we study in the same class at univ ..and i've been NC for 4 months. Believe me I IGNORED HIM all the time( especially when he entered the class..i would turn my head or just pass on by him and simply IGNORE..blocked him (facebook etc etc etc ) I ignored his merry christmass message . Did all that stuff and moved on with my life ..started to date etc etc .. they come back when you least expect it.
bananaboat11 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 They come back when you least expect it. so very true. GJ on the NC! =) Keep your head held high and be strong.
LovelyDaze Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 4:35 am, message from him " god damn it i might regret this , but i miss you " I didn't reply. Don't reply. It is not enough to fix whatever reason he dumped you for. No, it is not a start either. My ex started off with texts and e-mails like that(read my earlier posts) and I stupidly had discussions with him that went absolutely nowhere. YES, he misses you. Why not? You both spent time together and he feels a bit of a void. It doesn't mean that NOW you two can go back the way you were because you can't. You can fix what is broken but there will be cracks that can never be entirely mended without just starting from absolute scratch. Try seeing when he actually gets serious and wants to talk about the issues that created him to become an ex in the first place. Worst thing I ever did when my ex first sent the text, "I know now who I need in my life. I love you. I miss you. <3 " I responded, "I miss you too." Heartwarming? Sure. True? Not a chance.
bananaboat11 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Don't reply. It is not enough to fix whatever reason he dumped you for. No, it is not a start either. My ex started off with texts and e-mails like that(read my earlier posts) and I stupidly had discussions with him that went absolutely nowhere. YES, he misses you. Why not? You both spent time together and he feels a bit of a void. It doesn't mean that NOW you two can go back the way you were because you can't. You can fix what is broken but there will be cracks that can never be entirely mended without just starting from absolute scratch. Try seeing when he actually gets serious and wants to talk about the issues that created him to become an ex in the first place. Worst thing I ever did when my ex first sent the text, "I know now who I need in my life. I love you. I miss you. <3 " I responded, "I miss you too." Heartwarming? Sure. True? Not a chance. I want to hear the sentiment in the voice... the "I ****ed up every day when I was with you and realized I was the problem... but I am willing to spend the rest of my days making it up to you even if you do not forgive me until my dying day. I loved you then, I love you now, I will love you forever..." Will I hear that from my ex? Probably not... Will any of us? All chances are slim... The best thing we can do? Be US. Be selfish. Live OUR lives, not theirs.
paleblue Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 yup, its just breadcrumbs, you start talking and they start feeling better (guilt relief). unless you are interested in being 'just friends'. but something tells me thats not the case. maybe he is just between girls and is looking for you to give him some attention until the next one.
adamt Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 just ignore it, you dont want to start all over again. time scale was different but my ex wanted some time to think about the relationship. 2 weeks later she emailed me and said she missed me. SO i thought we would make a go of it and work out the problems. 2 weeks later we then met up and she broke it off straight away without giving me a chance. so really, words mean nothing. its the action that shows what they really mean. or the majority of the silence. if it is 6 months or so down the linem it could be they have been with someone else but jsut not worked out or they have been dumped and they feel a bit down and thinking about the good times with you. more than likely it is a temporary feeling
LovelyDaze Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I want to hear the sentiment in the voice... the "I ****ed up every day when I was with you and realized I was the problem... but I am willing to spend the rest of my days making it up to you even if you do not forgive me until my dying day. I loved you then, I love you now, I will love you forever..." Will I hear that from my ex? Probably not... Will any of us? All chances are slim... The best thing we can do? Be US. Be selfish. Live OUR lives, not theirs. Amen and Hallelujah! Our exes are selfish for all the wrong reasons when they dangle carrots in our face then snatch them away. Let's be selfish and choose happiness. People can't possibly be happy being pulled into and out over and over again with no real payoff. Love feels good. Not sad,lethargic, depressing and worst of all, not lonely.
annxxdisaster Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 girls are much better at NC than boys are Not so much in my case. Then again, I try too hard sometimes.
XKatieX Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 I wouldn't reply, sounds like a complete trap to me. If he REALLY wanted you back itd probably be more along the lines of this: I realized I messed up by letting you go, time apart has made me reflect on a lot of things. Lets give things another try? Saying he misses you doesn't necessarily mean he wants you back, it could just end up flip flopping and being I miss you, but...I still stand by my decision.
bananaboat11 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Amen and Hallelujah! Our exes are selfish for all the wrong reasons when they dangle carrots in our face then snatch them away. Let's be selfish and choose happiness. People can't possibly be happy being pulled into and out over and over again with no real payoff. Love feels good. Not sad,lethargic, depressing and worst of all, not lonely. Your wisdom inspired me. And I firmly believe it true. Ex's are selfish to feed their own ego... if it was meant to be, THEY WOULD MAKE IT WORK THIS TIME... So LD, thank you soooo much for your good words! I wouldn't reply, sounds like a complete trap to me. If he REALLY wanted you back itd probably be more along the lines of this: I realized I messed up by letting you go, time apart has made me reflect on a lot of things. Lets give things another try? Saying he misses you doesn't necessarily mean he wants you back, it could just end up flip flopping and being I miss you, but...I still stand by my decision. Sorry, but not good enough for me. The pain, torment, and agony I've experienced in my heart needs more comfort than that... that's just bait for more writhing agony...
XKatieX Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Your wisdom inspired me. And I firmly believe it true. Ex's are selfish to feed their own ego... if it was meant to be, THEY WOULD MAKE IT WORK THIS TIME... So LD, thank you soooo much for your good words! Sorry, but not good enough for me. The pain, torment, and agony I've experienced in my heart needs more comfort than that... that's just bait for more writhing agony... Hehe, maybe not in your experience. But this persons case sounds different, although not 100% sure, but it is their thread.
gaudi Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 4:35 am, message from him " god damn it i might regret this , but i miss you " I didn't reply. I don't like the fact that he started it off with he may regret it. That certainly doesn't bode well. I'm glad you never replied.
ginyi1111 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 ....they always come back. I'm a guy who is heart broken... dumped over facebook by a stupid girl. And as much as I believe she won't come back... she will. How sure are you they would?
bananaboat11 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 How sure are you they would? Ever been dumped? I have... good breakups ... bad break ups... They always come back. Every single ex. Have I dumped? Yes... I've gone back. Unless you're emotionally ****ED UP... you will ALWAYS care. You spent time with that someone.. you invested yourself into that someone... you are with them STILL and they are with you. Even if it's just a friendship.. or acquaintanceship.. you will be there.. or vice versa. I've seen it time and time again. I'm sure a lot of people have. It SUCKS hardcore. I hope this ex of mine doesnt' come back... I can't handle it emotionally.. this is the first time i've ever been physically USED and emotionally abused at the SAME time. It SUCKS.
Blueberry7691 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Ever been dumped? I have... good breakups ... bad break ups... They always come back. Every single ex. Have I dumped? Yes... I've gone back. Unless you're emotionally ****ED UP... you will ALWAYS care. You spent time with that someone.. you invested yourself into that someone... you are with them STILL and they are with you. Even if it's just a friendship.. or acquaintanceship.. you will be there.. or vice versa. I've seen it time and time again. I'm sure a lot of people have. It SUCKS hardcore. I hope this ex of mine doesnt' come back... I can't handle it emotionally.. this is the first time i've ever been physically USED and emotionally abused at the SAME time. It SUCKS. I'm sorry for your pain.
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