Do you really care how many partners a woman has been with?

[Ruby Slippers]

Geez, what kind of math class is this?

Right?! Let's calculate how far silic0ntoad has traveled down Vagina Highway.

 

IMO, no mature man worth being with is going to make an issue out of a woman's number. I see it as something that only teenage boys and insecure men worry about.

[Ms. Joolie]

The key I think is to find out relationship history, not sexual history.

 

Find out about relationship history, and just assume they've had sex. Fill in the blanks when they were not in relationships and there you have it.

 

Who cares how many partners they've had. Discover their attitudes on sex, see if your compatible in the sex department. That's what matters to you now.

 

 

....I can't imagine a man asking me how many partners I've had! I'd have to ask him first why it mattered to him and would he tell me how many partners he's had in turn.

[silic0ntoad]

Well, I can handle women with multiple partners under her belt. I'd feel some type of way about dealing with a virgin though. My mind is always running. All that matters to me is the here and now when it comes to sex. If I can get her off, I feel fulfilled. So really, her number doesn't matter beyond the above said equation. It's funny because any time a girl tells me her number now I have to do the math.

 

And this is dick measurements 101. I didn't think there was a standard vagina length? I could be wrong. Although you could always do the math on how many feet of dick silic0n has laid down since Day Zero. Haha!

[MissJoness]

silic0ntoad i'm still waiting for you tell me how you can tell how many partners a woman has been with..??

[deux ex machina]

silic0ntoad i'm still waiting for you tell me how you can tell how many partners a woman has been with..??

 

A diabolical mark.

[MissJoness]

A diabolical mark.

what do you mean?

[silic0ntoad]

Oh, my bad!

 

Generally at least to me I've been able to guess a girls number within one or two simply by how confident they are in the bedroom. You can be insecure in every aspect of life, but within a few encounters a persons' true sexual side does come out. If they are confident and know what they want, that generally speaks of experience beyond a few partners. If they aren't and are more like a dead fish, well, usually they have only a few people that they may have slept with.

[MissJoness]

Oh, my bad!

 

Generally at least to me I've been able to guess a girls number within one or two simply by how confident they are in the bedroom. You can be insecure in every aspect of life, but within a few encounters a persons' true sexual side does come out. If they are confident and know what they want, that generally speaks of experience beyond a few partners. If they aren't and are more like a dead fish, well, usually they have only a few people that they may have slept with.

huh? what if she was in a longterm relationship with one partner and gained all her sexual experience from that?

[silic0ntoad]

what do you mean?

 

 

lmao. Like the sign of the beast. Once a woman has been with more then 6 men, they develope a slight mark on the inner thigh invisible to the female species. Us men refer to the diabolical mark as the "Mark of the Harlot of Babylon" It generally takes the shape of a small inverted star and a red flag in the center.

[silic0ntoad]

huh? what if she was in a longterm relationship with one partner and gained all her sexual experience from that?

 

That usually means she would be even more apprehensive about sex when it comes down to it.

[Ruby Slippers]

If they are confident and know what they want, that generally speaks of experience beyond a few partners. If they aren't and are more like a dead fish, well, usually they have only a few people that they may have slept with.

I have been confident and assertive in bed since about the third time I ever had sex. Sure, I've gotten better as I've gone along, but I was never nervous, insecure, or lame, even when I was barely experienced.

 

So, I think your testing methods are unreliable.

[MissJoness]

That usually means she would be even more apprehensive about sex when it comes down to it.

in what way? you could be wrongly accusing women of being promiscuous when theyre not

[silic0ntoad]

in what way? you could be wrongly accusing women of being promiscuous when theyre not

 

 

Does it really matter? I just said the number doesn't matter to me beyond calculating how many feet of dick she has had in the past. So what's the point? If my "method" has led me to within a few digits of the number when that even mattered, then it's clearly proven to work for me. I don't go about banging girls and saying "Dude, she's been with eight guys, forget it." The girl I am seeing now has been with more people then I have, and I didn't ask, she flat out told me. It hasn't affected my POV on the situation.

[MissJoness]

Does it really matter? I just said the number doesn't matter to me beyond calculating how many feet of dick she has had in the past. So what's the point? If my "method" has led me to within a few digits of the number when that even mattered, then it's clearly proven to work for me. I don't go about banging girls and saying "Dude, she's been with eight guys, forget it." The girl I am seeing now has been with more people then I have, and I didn't ask, she flat out told me. It hasn't affected my POV on the situation.

yes it matters. i just dont want men to think badly of me when i start having more sex thats all

[CaliGuy]

Here's the way I see it:

 

There are a LOT of men out there having a LOT of sex. Unless they are having it with each other, then there are a LOT of women doing the same thing. Nobody is perfect. I care more about:

 

1. Is she disease free?

2. Is she capable of being monogamous?

 

If she meets those two criteria, then her past doesn't matter to me. It's the present and future that matters.

[silic0ntoad]

yes it matters. i just dont want men to think badly of me when i start having more sex thats all

 

 

Alot of men are intimidated by a sexually assertive woman. I was at certain points, but I grew up.

 

The best solution to wanting to avoid this whole scenario? Be honest. If the guy can't accept honesty then he isn't worth your time. And that's if he even asks in the first place.

[Ms. Joolie]

yes it matters. i just dont want men to think badly of me when i start having more sex thats all

 

What matters I think is your attitude toward sex.

 

If you are a virgin, you will be seen as a virgin.

If you are a filthy dirty whore, you will be seen as a filthy dirty whore.

If you lack experience, you will be seen as lacking experience.

If you are a wonderful lover, you will be seen as a wonderful lover.

[Angel1111]

Do you remember the movie 'Four Weddings & a Funeral'? I was kinda grossed out about the 32 guys the the main character said she slept with. In the real world, I would think that would really be a turn-off to a guy. As far as guys, I don't mind if he has experience but I wouldn't care to be with a guy who slept around a lot. That would bother me.

[silic0ntoad]

Here's the way I see it:

 

There are a LOT of men out there having a LOT of sex. Unless they are having it with each other, then there are a LOT of women doing the same thing. Nobody is perfect. I care more about:

 

1. Is she disease free?

2. Is she capable of being monogamous?

 

If she meets those two criteria, then her past doesn't matter to me. It's the present and future that matters.

 

Agreed. Althought it is fun to calculate DiF (dick in feet) ratio. So I did the math on myself. I lost my v-card when I was 19. Been having regular sex for 8 years. My measurments in length are a hair below 7". So, assuming a constant 7", and a regular sex life, I can calculate 365/3 (I usually have sex once every three days roughly, to account for seperations, break ups, etc) = 122 x 7" = 854 x 8 (years) = 6832" / 12" = 569.3' or a tenth of a mile

Edited January 11, 2010 by silic0ntoad

[Crazy Magnet]

I care about how many other girls my boyfriends have slept with...to a point. I mean, everybody has got to learn some how. While I employ the don't ask, don't tell, let's all get an HIV test philosophy, it's not for everyone.

 

I didn't become a vixen overnight I had to work hard to earn my...ahem...skillz (yes, with a z, not an s).

 

I think alphamale thinks the same way.

[TheBigQuestion]

I do care. Are promiscuous women more likely to cheat on you? The answer is as obvious as the answer to asking whether or not a bear takes a **** in the woods.

[Woggle]

i've seen a few posts where men look down on women who have had a lot of partners or into casual sex. Just wondering when you court a girl do you ask her how many men she's been with? I've never had a guy ask me that before.

 

I know women who have had a lot of partners and they still end up getting married and having a traditional life like everybody else. Maybe their partner didn't care or they lied about how many men they've been with.

 

Or they cheat on their husbands left and right.

[alphamale]

i have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy when it comes to past partners

[Crazy Magnet]

i have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy when it comes to past partners

 

 

Sometimes I wish this forum had a "like" button like facebook.

[Blackfrost]

It's a compatability thing between the people involved. Some people don't care about previous sex lives, and some do

 

I haven't slept with every woman I know, and I wouldn't want a partner who'd slept with every guy she had met either - and I'm not talking about someone having just 5-8 partners - I'm talking about people in the 20-30's and up range. It means the person I'm with has a bit of discernment and doesn't jump on everything put in front of her.

 

Some people care about this stuff and some don't