purgatori Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Another year of fruitless pining after women who suck jock's ####s? No thanks. This world isn't for me, and I wish I had the backbone to do what needs to be done, but I can't seem to locate the strength to actually take practical steps to effect an exit. Maybe I'll just make sure to leave my cat to my sister in my will, so that it will be taken care of and not returned to the shelter, start taking a lot more risks this year, and hope for the best.
BW007 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 (edited) Dude! This will sound annoying at first but CUT THE CRAP RIGHT NOW! Noone and I mean absolutely NOONE is worth checking out over. She was bad to you but also bad for you, but you are doing ok if only because you are here seeking some advice and peers here. There is a good forum on Suicide prevention on REDDIT that you should check out right away. I am in the same heartbroken place as you( see my post above) but I feel that we only have a limited time on the planet anyways, and there are probably at least a million girls in the world that could be great for you, so go friggin find her. You are a young guy, I can tell, and heartbreak sucks, but talk to everyone in your life and tell them how much you are hurting right now. You WILL find people care about you. Tell your mom or dad or brothers or grandma or grandpa or brother or sister or a shrink or a priest or your best friend or a teacher or your boss....just do not carry this alone. Keep letting us know you are ok please. Edited January 11, 2010 by BW007 sp.
Author purgatori Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 Noone and I mean absolutely NOONE is worth checking out over. She was bad to you but also bad for you, but you are doing ok if only because you are here seeking some advice and peers here. There is a good forum on Suicide prevention on REDDIT that you should check out right away. I've never been involved with a woman, so no, 'she' hasn't been 'bad [to me]' -- in fact, 'she', doesn't even know me, and nobody like her would ever want to, which is why I want to induce suicide, rather than prevent it. Still, I will take a look at this forum you mention.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 I've been there and felt that way for a long time, but you gotta find that happiness from within, it doesnt come from a woman, being content begins with you.
BW007 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Ok, I get that. You really need a good wingman because right now you have the attitude that you are never going to get a girl you like. I felt like that in High School sometimes and I didn't lose my virginity till I was 18. But oh man did I make up for it when I realized that girls DID in fact like me. If I was your age and a neighbor I would be your wingman and instigate you having fun with girls. That is the first step. Push yourself past feeling awkward and geeky, and do something different (an open mic, a poetry slam, a hipster coffeehouse, a dance club, shoot some pool, a bike trip, a camp counselor, a hooker) just change some things. You aren't a bad looking kid if that is you. Maybe get in to boogieboarding if you live near surf or something totally geeky like a roller rink or something. Get a brand new style, punker, clean cut, whatever, just change it up a bit and fake it til you make it, meaning find something you are having fun at and people will gravitate to you. Being all suicidal and emo is wicked unattrtactive unless you are an emo chick.
BW007 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Ok, I get that. You really need a good wingman because right now you have the attitude that you are never going to get a girl you like. I felt like that in High School sometimes and I didn't lose my virginity till I was 18. But oh man did I make up for it when I realized that girls DID in fact like me. If I was your age and a neighbor I would be your wingman and instigate you having fun with girls. That is the first step. Push yourself past feeling awkward and geeky, and do something different (an open mic, a poetry slam, a hipster coffeehouse, a dance club, shoot some pool, a bike trip, a camp counselor, a hooker) just change some things. You aren't a bad looking kid if that is you. Maybe get in to boogieboarding if you live near surf or something totally geeky like a roller rink or something. Get a brand new style, punker, clean cut, whatever, just change it up a bit and fake it til you make it, meaning find something you are having fun at and people will gravitate to you. Being all suicidal and emo is wicked unattractive unless you are an emo chick.
Author purgatori Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 (edited) Ok, I get that. You really need a good wingman because right now you have the attitude that you are never going to get a girl you like. I felt like that in High School sometimes and I didn't lose my virginity till I was 18. But oh man did I make up for it when I realized that girls DID in fact like me. If I was your age and a neighbor I would be your wingman and instigate you having fun with girls. That is the first step. Push yourself past feeling awkward and geeky, and do something different (an open mic, a poetry slam, a hipster coffeehouse, a dance club, shoot some pool, a bike trip, a camp counselor, a hooker) just change some things. You aren't a bad looking kid if that is you. Maybe get in to boogieboarding if you live near surf or something totally geeky like a roller rink or something. Get a brand new style, punker, clean cut, whatever, just change it up a bit and fake it til you make it, meaning find something you are having fun at and people will gravitate to you. Being all suicidal and emo is wicked unattrtactive unless you are an emo chick. I'm 28, and until recently I was quite active with surfing/swimming, attending uni, going out, etc. and nobody whom I was attracted to ever 'gravitated' toward me, unless they wanted something from me other than a relationship. I know that I'm not *bad*-looking (although thanks for saying so, anyway), but that doesn't cut it when the only girls that you tend to be attracted to are in the extreme upper limits of attractiveness. I've been there and felt that way for a long time, but you gotta find that happiness from within, it doesnt come from a woman, being content begins with you. I am content with who I am, but the desire to want to be with someone is part of who I am, and I am not going to deny it. Having that desire frustrated for so long, and there being no chance of ever fulfilling it, is what causes mental anguish. Edited January 11, 2010 by purgatori
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