Is it me, him or our ages??

[SecretlySad]

I am just wondering whether the issues I have in our relationship are age related or not?? I am 27 and he is 44. We have been together for nearly 6 years.

 

- He gets upset about things that I can't understand are even an issue.

 

- When we fight he stops speaking to me, completely shuts down. I know a lot of guys do this but because of our age difference I feel like a child being punished. Even when I apologise or tell him I want to talk about it he continues to ignore me.

 

- He constantly thinks I am attacking him or there is nastiness in my comments. He always doubts me but if I even show a hint of doubt towards him he becomes insulted.

 

- If we get into a screaming match it seems like he can say whatever he wants, but if I say similar things directed at him he goes off his brain.

 

- When we are out, if he has upset me and he thinks what I am upset about is silly, he won't try and fix the situation but instead tell me if I am going to be "cranky", he is going home - almost threatening me like a parent would.

 

Am I crazy here? Am I the bad guy or is this all age related?

 

Thanks in advance for any advice

[OnlyJake]

This has nothing to do with either of your ages. He's an abusive, childish *******, plain and simple. You've dealt with this crap for 6 years??

[AriaIncognito]

i agree, this has nothing to do with your ages. I'm currently dating someone who's 17 years my elder, and he's never behaved in that manner. He's 9 years older than your SO, if that helps any. I started dating him when he was 50.

 

I think your man just sucks at communication and/or relationships. He wants to hear what he wants to hear, and nothing more. Unfortunately, life rarely goes that way.

[alphamale]

Am I crazy here? Am I the bad guy or is this all age related?

its all age related, he wants to be your pappy