tahoebuffy Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Okay, I have been dying to vent about this forever, so here goes. I was with a man for 9 years. He never felt like the one, but he WAS my best friend. Breaking up with him was best for me and for him. Allow me to find someone who I could really love, and give him the chance to find someone who would love him like I couldnt. It tore me apart to break his heart. So bad I had to move to another city for a couple years. I kept in contact with my friends while I was gone, one in particular I will call...Nell. Nell was in the same group of friends that I had had for 10 years. Nell was my friend and my hair stylist. We got along great and when I broke up with my man, she told me she was glad because she never thought he was good enough for me and now I was single like her and we could go out and party it up together. So, I was gone for two years, but I came back often to visit. Days before one of my visits, the X emails me saying he needed to tell me something before I found out from someone else. Apparently, he and Nell were now together. Hmmmm. Now, given that I genuinely cared about the welfare and happiness of the X, and the fact that he was now a seemingly permanent fixture in my friend group, I tried very hard to be the bigger person and not do what everyone thought I would do, freak out. Though the acid in my mouth was acrid when I thought of Nell and how she had never even bothered with the courtesy of a ****ing PHONE CALL to maybe tell me she was interested in him and would I mind her engaging in a relationship with my X. Then, to make things extra special, they decided to move in together and got an apartment LITERALLY next door to my brother and his wife. I decided to move back around this time. So I moved back. I heard from a couple people that Nell had been wishing I wouldnt come back. Hmmmm. SO, now my good friend had gone from wanting me to come back to wishing I wouldnt so my presence wouldnt make her little situation uncomfortable for her. Bitch. Her bad luck just happened to be that my brother is a staple member of our group, and his fiance (I'll call her Shay) was my best friend. Or so I thought. I soon found out that during their neighbor-ship, Nell had slowly and surely usurped my place as Shay's best friend. Now it was all about Shay and Nell, pictures of them all over the place, constant hanging out, etc.. Now I am not only trying to deal with the fact that she moved on my X without asking or at least a courtesy call, but that she has also moved in on my best girl friend. now I am one pist bitch. There are several things I cannot understand. WHy the hell would my friend group not bother to at least express that Nell ****ing my X was not a good idea? How could my best friend somehow become besties with the same damn bitch? And Nell this whole time is playing like little miss nice, and yet using every opportunity to mention her "best friend" Shay. In fact, when my brother and his fiance finally got married, guess who the maid of honor was??? Nell. Nell is coming dangerously close to having her face punched in, and she has since gotten engaged to the X. I am in the wedding. I am walking LAST. In her facebook photos, there are tons of her and Shay, and the few with me in them dont even f-ing have my NAME on the captions, like I am now some faceless chick bearing the name "friend", or "The girls". And there is nothing to be done. What can I do, make a huge scene and totally ruin the group dynamic? Lose the people I have had as friends for years while looking like the whiney ex girlfriend?? What would I even say? You took my X and my best friend, why ya gotta single white female me?? That sounds so childish. Grrr. I want to tear this bitch apart and I cant.
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