start-fresh Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 We just had a new intern start at our office this last week that I'm really attracted to. I graduated college last spring and she's in her freshman year. Yeah, I know. I haven't really talked to her much yet, just kind of in passing. Personally if I was in her shoes and somebody out of college, four years my senior, started showing interest in me, I would think it was kind of desperate and creepy. Am I right in assuming that or would you ladies be flattered? I should mention I don't think I come off as creepy in general and I'm pretty self aware. This is even assuming I could navigate all the faux pas and drama that any kind of work relationship could bring on. Yeah, I realize how bad of an idea this appears to be, but it wouldn't be the first time something like this has happened, so what do you say LS?
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 I'd be flattered, and definitely not creeped out, but a young woman just starting out wants to be taken seriously (usually) in the workplace and doesn't want to jeopardize any future opportunities. I would probably not go for this one until her internship is nearing an end.
OnlyJake Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 There's a possibility I would be flattered, and there's a possibility I'd wonder why you were going for someone in such a different situation/young.
lab_brat Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 I don't think its a problem, but would tread carefully. You can be friendly and flirt a bit and show rhat you are interested in a really low key, non confrontational way, so that if she wants to take it further she can make the first move. But don't hit on her, thats always so awkward at a new job..
stace79 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Agreed .. tread carefully. Try to get to know her and let her get to know you in a workplace context, and perhaps as friends. I would be really careful to proceed into romantic waters until her internship is coming to a close. A lot of companies have pretty strict policies regarding workplace romances, especially if you are senior to her. It might be different if you were BOTH interns. Maybe just get to know her as I mentioned and then toward the end of her internship suggest you'd like to keep in touch?
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