brooksfamily423 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Hi everyone, A little background on me, I got preggo at 19 and my ex left me while I was preggo. When child was 4 months old I met my now husband. Well, he and I aren't really "married" but we've been together awhile and consider ourselves married. Anyway, we took relationship slow. After dating for a year we moved in together things kinda went sour after that. He has been a wonderful father to my child. One day though, I'd had enough and I packed my stuff and decided I was done then 3 days later I found out I was preggos again. He and I worked things out, had a daughter together, bought a new home, and things went very well. My children are now 6 and 2, and I am bored out of my mind. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I'm starting to feel that my partner and I don't have anything in common. The older I get the more apparent it seems to me that he and I just aren't very compatiable despite the fact that I love him. I find myself quite often daydreaming about past relationships, past boyfriends, or even just some made up relationship with someone I've never met. Not that I am a cheater I've never acted on the daydreams it just kind of an escape for me. I work 2nd shift for a laughable amount of pay. Hubby makes the bread in this family. If I wanted to go I would be really really really pinched on the finances part. Some of my friends have told me that I'm just bored of the daily grind and need to find some hobbies. I personally feel it goes deeper then that but I'm not completely sure. Any advice or comments are welcome. Tell me what u think.
asireen Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Whatever you do, do not have any more kids. You seem too immature and irresponsible for that. Feeling bored? With 2 young kids in the home? Are they growing up on their own? on a diet of TV and fast food??
OhGeesh Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Not enough information or specifics for me to answer. It sounds like you are bored with life especially considering depression is a factor. Good luck!!
whichwayisup Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 For the sake of your two kids, try your best to make it work. You and your partner NEED to reconnect, somehow. Take the time to spend time with him, go out for dinner, get a sitter. Couples counselling is an option, but I do think you need to fix yourself first. Deal with your anxiety and depression, get therapy for that, then see how you feel later about your partner. It could very well be you two aren't inlove and now stuck with a family and in a situation where you want out but can't afford it. Be honest and talk to him too, does he feel similar as you do? IS he happy?
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