I am bummed. Did she lose interest, or was she never interested to begin with?

[skydiveaddict]

Hate to say it, but as far as this girl is concerned, you're the Mayor of Friend Zonegeles!

 

 

lmao that is some funny s..t!

[MyNameIsJonas]

Update: so she emailed me a few days afterward a somewhat lengthy email. At the end she said she hoped things were cool between us, she was sorry if she sent mixed messages, she felt bad about that, but has just really liked spending time with me and would like to do so again sometime.

 

So, is that a further push into the friend zone or does it sound like she may be still be slightly curious? I don't want to be thick headed here, I'm just not sure why she would want to continue to hang out if we weren't really friends before and had only hung out a few times after exchanging numbers.

 

Is it worth hanging out again or no?

 

Take what everyone is saying on LS with a grain of salt. A lot of the people here are taking their personal experiences and applying it to your situation, but every situation is, in fact, different. The truth is that you are the only person who knows this woman so you are the only person who can really make an accurate judgement here.

 

I would say hang out with her with an er of caution on your mind. Gauge her actions while you two are out and make the call from there. Worst case scenario is that you "waste" a night on a girl who actually has "friendzoned" you or whatever and you now know for sure instead of assuming one way or the other. Best case scenario is that all of this is part of her personality and she may still be interested.

Edited January 15, 2010 by MyNameIsJonas
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[D-Jam]

wouldn't sweat it. be her friend and let her be your wing woman

I agree with this logic.

 

 

I also think that women need to stop thinking guys approach and talk to them just to be friends.

 

I also agree JoeShmoe18 didn't do anything wrong. He was a gentleman, took his time, but for some reason (realistic or ridiculous) this woman wasn't into him.

 

Yes it sucks, but all he can do is pull himself up and try again. Start with her friends. See if she has any attractive female friends who might see JoeShmoe17 as dating material. If your new friend is very cool and good to you as well, then introduce her to the guys and see if any of them click with her.

 

That's what friends do.

[b52s]

I met a girl at a party a few weeks ago. I got her number, couldn't tell if I was super interested (she may have picked up on that vibe) but seemed cool enough. We hung out twice and she seemed interested in me at that point. I asked her to hang out again and she said yes right away. When we actually got together I was ready to make a move and she didn't really respond to my move, I then kind of asked her where we stood. She said that she just saw us as heading towards a friendship. She said she didn't want to be mean but really did want to be my friend. I said that it was cool, and I thought she was interested to begin with but that maybe I misread her. She didn't respond when I said this.

 

I am bummed, I don't get why she lost interest, but maybe she wasn't that much to begin with. (Though she would do things like randomly text me and tell me what music she was listening to, and would also send random 'hello' messages.)

 

Does it sound like she met someone else, or just lost interest for some unknown reason? Is it possible that she'll change her mind or should I not hold onto any sort of hope? For some reason I want to hold on to hope that she'll change her mind again but it seems like a silly hope. I am bummed.

 

I am wondering why yu're calling it "hanigng out