alphamale Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 It is somewhat fascinating to read about how those whom women often prioritize over their partners (men are transitory but friends are forever) get to that place with this dynamic in play. Fascinating stuff....just gotta say... indeed carhill
meerkat stew Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Ha! That's really interesting! I wonder why that is.. No idea, not scientific of course, just IME over the years, but to a degree that I will walk up to a group of ten without a second thought, but feel things out before engaging a group of five. There are all kinds of interesting social dynamics going on to investigate
Left in a Lurch Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 As far as groups of women, they are like the cockblocking offensive line of the New Orleans Saints. They are often well coached in straight up cockblocking, and it takes Pro Bowl moves to even have a chance. Avoid hitting on a woman in a group unless you want to get pancaked.
threebyfate Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 your friends have decided the guy is not good enough or whatever and intervene on your behalf to 'save' you from making a mistake - but I never buy this excuseAs younger, single ladies, my friends and I had an agreement. No one leaves the bar with anyone else, besides our group, unless the other person was a known person. This way, we stopped each other from doing silly things, while under the influence.
Author MissJoness Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 Oh yeah! I've had that happen a lot, a LOT, it turned me into a woman-hater for a while, if you can't even trust your closest friends not to screw you over when it comes to men, who can you trust? Happens due to female competition, insecurity or just plain old bitchiness. Can happen because: a less attractive friend is bitter she's not getting the attention, a more attractive friend who is the girl that normally gets the attention getting pissed that she's not the centre of the universe for once your friends have decided the guy is not good enough or whatever and intervene on your behalf to 'save' you from making a mistake - but I never buy this excuse ...and so on and on and on...(I am no longer 'close' friends with any women who behave like this by the way, life is too short to be worried about being stabbed in the back by your best friend due to competitiveness over men) I dont blame any girl for being bitter if she isn't getting any male attention while the other girls are. Its quite distressing especialy if you are trying to get a boyfriend and the other friend is attracting the guys that you want to date. I'd be mad too and stop hanging out with this friend(s)
b52s Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 i usually approach women in socially appropriate places (bars, parties, single events, etc..). aproaching chicks in public places such as target, the library, the mall is usually futile and a waste of time Ironic, isn't it.....when the bars are the worst place to meet people as opposed to the latter. Please though explain, why is it a waste of time? You mean if you saw some hot babe at a magazine rack by herself browsing a magazine, you wouldn't try to chat her up?
Yukikazi Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Ironic, isn't it.....when the bars are the worst place to meet people as opposed to the latter. Please though explain, why is it a waste of time? You mean if you saw some hot babe at a magazine rack by herself browsing a magazine, you wouldn't try to chat her up? People in bars and clubs expect to get chatted up and hit on.. the dynamic is different outside those venues.. the time constraint is different and the initial attitude can be disconcerting if you aren't used to daytime pickups.
phineas Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 baloney, most men are intimidated by a group of women. for most guys a woman is much more approachable at a social event when she is by herself. smart single women know this instinctively and actively seperate themselves from the herd. a lot of women will go out to some social function in a large group and spend the entire evening talking with themselves and then wonder why they didn't meet any guys I remember back at a bon-fire party a couple of us guys were standing around drinking beer when all of us in unison noticed a large group of women (about 7) standing to the side with no men around. So the 3 of us walked over & before we could even say anything the leader of that pack said "sorry guys, were not nearly drunk enough yet to talk to you. come back later." then turned her back on us.
CaliGuy Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 While I agree, it gets harder when you are over 30 and MUCH harder if you are over 40 because most of your friends are married. In my case, ALL of my male friends are married so they don't normally hang out with a single guy. My younger friends just want to party and get drunk (a rare occurrence for me because I am not a heavy drinker). Not my style. I personally think if you are afraid to approach women you're doomed. You need to get out of that comfort zone and not be afraid to talk to women you meet on a daily basis. Being afraid to make the first move is why so many people stay single.
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