enchanted771 Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I had a feeling but i decided to give him a chance and this is what i get in return.... Guy who allegedly wanted a relationship with meb lew me off on Friday, (tentative plans, and had plans with his friends, who apparently are more appealing than me. If he really liked me, he would havd rather be with me)and today he instant messages me (not call) and says he wont be able to see me tonight, because he has a doctors appointment in the morning. Its still early, so he could have at least came for coffee or something. So, this is the second blow off in 3 days. I think he is full of crap. So, i told him that i knew he was going to cancel, and that didnt he know he had an appointment when he made plans with me?? (no matter what " Sunday" even last night he confirmed it) his excuse? yes he forgot, he made it 3 months ago and his dad reminded him this morning. Such a crock. Doctors offices remind you. Then to make me doubt his intentions even more, he says " If you dont want me to contact you even more just say the word" which make me really wonder about him, because i decided not to see this guy who i only went on one date with, and he wouldnt stop texting me! all his BS about i am not going anywhere bla bla bla. I tried to call him but of course it went straight to VM........
tami-chan Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 He does not want to be responsible for ending your relationship and/or wants to keep you as a back-up...just in case....Red flag! You do not want to be with a man who does not have the ethical courage to be truthful to himself and to you.
temple Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I may have got the wrong end of the stick, but I think you're being a little unreasonable here. Sometimes people can forget and make mistakes. It sounds like he genuinely forgot - if he made the appointment 3 months ago I'm not all that surprised.
Author enchanted771 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 I may have got the wrong end of the stick, but I think you're being a little unreasonable here. Sometimes people can forget and make mistakes. It sounds like he genuinely forgot - if he made the appointment 3 months ago I'm not all that surprised. I can understand that. But he flaked on me Friday because he would rather be with his friends. And if he needs daddy to keep track of his appointments, then he needs to learn to grow up. Its BS. IF he had not flaked on me Friday i might have believed him.
sagetalk Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 3 days, that's nothing. If you're freaking out over three days this guy may be lucky by getting out of this relationship. You seem to turn on people fairly quickly. Yikes!
Simon Attwood Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Have you heard of self fulfilling prophecies?
Author enchanted771 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 How do you figure?? he was the one who initiated us being exclusive. He blows me off for his friends on Friday. If i am not dating anyone else, i expect him to make time for me at least once a week.
temple Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 How many times does he get to see his friends? Was it a special occasion? Did he actually make plans with you or did you just expect to see him? I agree with sagetalk here, you should give him the benefit of the doubt. In the meantime, if you're still really suspicious, just take things slowly and cautiously. There's no point in blowing your top because of this, I just don't see he deserves that.
Author enchanted771 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 How many times does he get to see his friends? Was it a special occasion? Did he actually make plans with you or did you just expect to see him? I agree with sagetalk here, you should give him the benefit of the doubt. In the meantime, if you're still really suspicious, just take things slowly and cautiously. There's no point in blowing your top because of this, I just don't see he deserves that. Ok, but what guy blows off a girl he really likes for an early doctors appointment? I just dont know if i buy it. He wanted me to only see him, but i am not doing that if this is how its going to be!
temple Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 It's a doctor's appointment hun, it's not a coffee date with another woman. Seriously, I think you can give him a break with this. Concentrate on the next time you'll see him and take it from there. If he flakes again...you can rethink x
DustySaltus Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 You can always reschedule a doctors appointment. His excuse was bogus. Ask him if he got a prescription for flakyitis... Better yet, don't bother with him anymore and prescribe him the most effective medicine....silence.
Author enchanted771 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 He said he scheduled it 3 months in advance. He even asked me last night if were definitely on for Sunday, i said yes. So then this afternoon he ims me and his excuse? he forgot and his dad reminded him. What is he? 10?
sagetalk Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 He said he scheduled it 3 months in advance. He even asked me last night if were definitely on for Sunday, i said yes. So then this afternoon he ims me and his excuse? he forgot and his dad reminded him. What is he? 10? What more do you want from this guy? He called you last night, he said he wants to be with you and only you. You're acting high maintenance which is the granddaddy of all turn off's for men. If you want a relationship where the guy sees you everyday and does everything you want, the way you want it, then I feel sorry for this guy or any guy that dates you.
Author enchanted771 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 He didnt call me last night he imed. Same as this afternoon when he blew off plans with me. I understand the appointment, but he lives pretty close so he could have still made an effort even if it was just to have coffee for a few minutes.
thegreatmoose Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 So, this is the second blow off in 3 days. I think he is full of crap. He's had too many chances already. There are many good men who would never do such things.
harmfulsweetz Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 God, it's been what? 3 days? Get a grip. Seriously, you're going overboard. Hurt you? He had a doctors appointment, it happens. People forget, etc. You can't sulk everytime he can't make it, or has to reschedule. I'm sure he feels bad about it, but if he's been waiting three months for an appointment, it must be important. Why should he reschedule a doctors appointment because you take a huff? Chill, you're gonna scare every guy away acting like this, reschedule, if he does it again, rethink the situation. But give him the benefit of the doubt, don't just think oh he blew me off, so he hurt me, so he's so bad. He may well be genuine, and I don't think he's done much wrong.
Author enchanted771 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 God, it's been what? 3 days? Get a grip. Seriously, you're going overboard. Hurt you? He had a doctors appointment, it happens. People forget, etc. You can't sulk everytime he can't make it, or has to reschedule. I'm sure he feels bad about it, but if he's been waiting three months for an appointment, it must be important. Why should he reschedule a doctors appointment because you take a huff? Chill, you're gonna scare every guy away acting like this, reschedule, if he does it again, rethink the situation. But give him the benefit of the doubt, don't just think oh he blew me off, so he hurt me, so he's so bad. He may well be genuine, and I don't think he's done much wrong. This is the 2nd time.
harmfulsweetz Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I got that, I know that. But perhaps you're reading too much into nothing? You're taking it as a blow off when it may not be. Ask him, reschedule, see what happens.
sagetalk Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 He didnt call me last night he imed. I misread that, that is pretty lame. Well, if you have a great deal of other options, then go for them. I still think you're overreacting for just three days. It appears your feelings for him and his feelings for you are not all that strong. You both seem to think each other is fairly disposable.
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