Clep Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 My conversation with my boyfriend last night has me wondering how honest people are. I can say it is extremely rare for me to lie and if I was to, it would take me approx ten minutes to share the truth with the person, apologize. I believe if we are accountable for ourselves and recognize that our flaws don't have to bring shame or judgement upon ourselves the need to lie is gone. I think people lie out of fear, unwillingness to be accountable and shame. Do people regularly lie, lie by omission or twist the truth slightly for personal gain? My boyfriend thinks I am lying about not lying. I reminded him of a time I lied to him and shared within five min that I lied, apologized and shared the character flaw that put me in the position of lying. He says everyone lies and if I am to say I don't lie, or that if I do lie I always fess up, seek forgiveness and work on myself to avoid feeling like I need to lie in the future, that I am lying about that. Hmmmm. Makes me wonder about him. I have lied to him about surprises I have done for him, but I do not place that in the same category. If he will find out about the lie via a surprise I do not count that. Do people really lie that much?
alphamale Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 by whichever means everyone lies and anyone who says they don't lie are themselves a liar
TaraMaiden Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I am a very honest person, but it's something I've had to apply myself to. I used to be a dreadful liar when I was younger. I had dreadfully low self-esteem, and i would say anything to make people think better of me. Now? I hate lies. Truly, I loathe them. I'd much rather be honest with someone as gently as I can be, rather than tell them a lie. Even a white lie sticks in my throat. I actually truly don't believe lies are ever necessary. If you ever feel you have to lie, it's probably best to try to keep your mouth shut. By the way, there is a question that, if asked of you, you can actually never, ever lie to. You absolutely are compelled to tell the truth.
Author Clep Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 I By the way, there is a question that, if asked of you, you can actually never, ever lie to. You absolutely are compelled to tell the truth. I remember being the same when I was younger out of shame and poor self worth. I am so thankful I am no longer required to be that way anymore. I might lie in the future, but I do have the responsibility to be accountable for that lie and work it out for myself. What question are you referring to? I don't understand the quoted line.
TaraMaiden Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 It was a statement I read, believe it or not, in a Christmas cracker (so it's not really deep and meaningful....) The question would be: "Are you asleep/awake?"
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 How honest is everyone here? This is the internet, Al Gore's internet, thusly everyone is completely honest.
gerrydevis Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Hi, I do not know to anyone.But I am honest.
harmfulsweetz Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Not to my knowledge do I lie. I wouldn't consciously tell someone something if it's not true, I may however, downplay a truth. i.e. my friend asks if the dress makes her look big (it does) but I say instead, it doesn't make you look big, it just doesn't look right. Because there's honest and then there's tactless. My ex used to have a habit of being too honest. It is indeed possible. If he thought something, he'd say it. Good thing sometimes, other times, not so good. People often lie because they fear what the person will think of them if they just say the truth, I don't know anyone who doesn't or hasn't lied. I used to lie all the time, mainly little fibs, not huge blown out ones, and if I said I'd done something already (i.e filled my application forms in) but hadn't, I'd go and do it straight up.
derrensmiths Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 HI!! I totally agree with you. The people in this real world have to lie some time that's not wrong according to me. When there is something good behind that lie I totally agree with that lie but it should not heart other. I lie many a times sooo! It's absolutely fine. The lie should not be caught. Some one said that when you caught lying it becomes lie only then until then it is not lie.
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