To all the dumpees; How long had it been, if at all, your ex broke the NC?

[bananaboat11]

At this point in time... it's to the beginning of month 3 of NC (I stopped counting after the 3rd week, which is a good thing... I think), but at this point I'm beginning to affirm in my own mind she isn't coming back whatsoever... (regardless of after going through all the trouble to block me, a good female friend, and defacebook all MY friends... and make me feel miserable... she's unblocked me on facebook - passive ****ing mindgames.)

 

 

...at least I know a) if she unblocked me... somewhere, somehow she's still thinking about me and probably will for awhile. and b) if she really does resent me and hate me at this time... she won't forget me for awhile. It's better to be loved... erm, hated, than be forgotten. At least I'm not just another guy in her life who came and went...

 

But I've learned... (for the first time, as I'm young @ 25) there IS such a thing as cruel, cold, heartless women... The original story of my 4.5 month relationship. I hope one day I can be completely healed of this heart sickness and writhing agony of missing a toxic woman... thanks for listening =) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t216034/

 

-BB

[Serena2009]

But I've learned... (for the first time, as I'm young @ 25) there IS such a thing as cruel, cold, heartless women... The original story of my 4.5 month relationship. I hope one day I can be completely healed of this heart sickness and writhing agony of missing a toxic woman... thanks for listening =)

-BB

 

BB, don't let this experience result in becoming jaded about women. Don't let her have that kind of power over you!! I know why you ask the question about the exes coming back and how long because many dumpees, myself included at one time, dream of it and yearn for it. BUT, here's the clincher, if they come back without change you know what you get back . . . the same old BS. So . . . it's not it's all we crack it up to be in our minds and more often a resurfacing ex results in hindering the healing process than a happy and fulfilling reconciliation. Having said that, in answer to your original question, my ex-bf resurfaced:

 

episode 1 - 5 weeks post breakup in person - I blasted him

 

episode 2- about 6 weeks after episode 1 -I opened the door with a b-card on this one because I felt guilt about having blasted him which in reality, he deserved.

 

episode 3 - 2 1/2 months after episode 2 and during the recent holidays

 

side note 1: There was absolutley NC between any of these episodes

 

side note 2: My ex-bf is CP, not normal, and CPs often resurface.

 

side note 3: These episodes resulted is stirring alot of emotions.

 

side note 4: I have come to call these episodes becaue I've recently had an epiphany that his bizarre behavior is due to his twisted thinking that the relationship is like a DVD movie where he can push "pause" to freeze things in time to be continued at a later date, and then push "play" and have the relationship continue from right where it left off. The thing is, I'm not on "pause" and I have a life between these episodes completely unconnected to him.

[ginyi1111]

3 months of NC?? Wow...I hope and pray to God that when I reach that point I will not feel the need to come back to LS to post about my stupid ex...

 

Kudos to my ex, he never broke NC. Turned into a cold hearted jerk the day that we broke up. No matter how I texted or emailed. I suppose it is a good thing for me...

 

BB, are you still waiting for her to come back?

[bananaboat11]

What's CP?

[bananaboat11]

3 months of NC?? Wow...I hope and pray to God that when I reach that point I will not feel the need to come back to LS to post about my stupid ex...

 

Kudos to my ex, he never broke NC. Turned into a cold hearted jerk the day that we broke up. No matter how I texted or emailed. I suppose it is a good thing for me...

 

BB, are you still waiting for her to come back?

 

yes & no...

 

I feel pathetic. I was doing GREAT until she unblocked me. Yeah I missed her here & there, but it wasn't as 'bad'...

[Fitness Dude]

Exactly, what does CP mean?

 

In fact, there are a lot of acronyms that I don't always understand. Did anyone ever make a crib sheet for these?

[TuesGirl]

I'm pretty sure CP refers to Commitment Phobe... But I agree, sometimes the acronyms make me feel outdated...haha

[canadaman111]

My wife just moved out a week ago friday and we have had NC since last tuesday. I had to see her today to drop the kids off for the day. I tried not to do it but seeing her made me so sad. I started to cry and told her how much I miss her. She doesn't want to hear stuff like that right now.

 

I thought this NC stuff was bull when I first started coming here, but am beginning to think it has some merit. As much as I want to see her I always end up feeling worse afterwards. The thing is I have to see her cause of the kids, and really I still want to see her cause i want to be able to patch things up.

[Catseye8]

I had one come back after about 4 months once. By that time I wasn't interested any more (if he'd come back a couple of months earlier, I'd have taken him back like a shot, though). Facebook is awful for things like this, too - he actually started out by putting things like "So-and-so wonders if it's possible to undo the biggest mistake of his life" as his status update and then waiting for ME to call HIM. Ah, no...