DiscoChick Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Hey. Every year my friends and I have a super bowl party. Most of the time, the party is held at our house, because it is has more space and we have a widescreen. Now, several of our friends have moved into their own apartments. There are six of us that do this, and the votes are split pretty even. My brother and I are not comfortable at either of our friends' apartments; one stays in a horrible neighborhood, and the other always has some random chick stopping by. ALWAYS. The funny thing about this is that we are three pairs of siblings! So, the vote always turns up two for each location. I tried to reason that we should keep it where it has always been, but they think they should "repay" us by hosting. Why repay for a party when they can't even repay money they borrow? What do we do? We are all stubborn people. I suggested to my bro that we have our party and invite family, but I value my friendship with these guys. You know?
Angel1111 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Personally, I get tired of relatives who think everything should be at their house. If you don't like where they live or whatever, then don't show up. If they're borrowing money from you, then stop lending it to them. Money is the fastest way to create dissention in a family. If you want to help them out, then give them the money as a gift. I understand that if they don't have nice places, then they should realize that and just concede this. But it sounds like they are more comfortable in their home and would like to be there sometimes for the superbowl. Since you're all siblings, then you should agree to rotate each year where the party will be.
Author DiscoChick Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 We aren't all relatives. There's me and my brother then a pair that is brothers then another pair that is brothers. One of the guys (the one who has random chicks showing up) got angry because his team lost (Green Bay) and decided he didn't want the party at his place.My other friend knows he lives in a crappy neighborhood. No one that visits him parks their car in the apartment complex. We always park blocks away and walk. See, the thing about me giving my guy friends money is this: I can tell them they don't have to pay me back, but they still keep bringing it up. I mean, I'm their friend. It's okay for me to buy them cigarettes and stuff every once and a while, but borrowing fifty dollars here and there and swearing to pay it back is annoying. Did I mention they are the ones that keep bringing up the money they've borrowed? If they didn't mention it, I'd completely forget it. Seriously. My memory is horrible.
Angel1111 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Then stop giving them money and let them work out their own financial problems. I'm a single mom and I have never, ever asked my friends or family for money. As far as where they live, I don't know what to tell you. If they don't have the sense to realize that people don't feel safe or comfortable at their place, then I guess you'll just have to spell it out for them. Otherwise, just say that you're going to be at your own home on Superbowl sunday and anyone who wants to show up is welcome. Sounds like you've kind of outgrown these friends.
Author DiscoChick Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 I know I need new friends. I just bought diapers for one of their kids. Instead of a thank you it's always "I'll pay you back ASAP." I just want a thanks. I am going to make it clear to them that I am not a bank, and I refuse to keep giving them money. Thank you for your advice, and my brother thinks your idea is brilliant. This friend that stays in the shady neighborhood doesn't take hints well, so we'll just extend the invitation to him and hope he accepts. I really wouldn't like him to be there alone.
Angel1111 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 It's tough when you outgrow people, but it does happen. Of course, once you turn off that money faucet, your friends might disappear all by themselves.
Author DiscoChick Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 Nahhh. We'd still hang out and play video games. They just won't suffer shopping with me anymore.
Angel1111 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Nahhh. We'd still hang out and play video games. They just won't suffer shopping with me anymore. :laugh:
H1N1 Posted January 12, 2010 Posted January 12, 2010 Hey. Every year my friends and I have a super bowl party. Most of the time, the party is held at our house, because it is has more space and we have a widescreen. Now, several of our friends have moved into their own apartments. There are six of us that do this, and the votes are split pretty even. My brother and I are not comfortable at either of our friends' apartments; one stays in a horrible neighborhood, and the other always has some random chick stopping by. ALWAYS. The funny thing about this is that we are three pairs of siblings! So, the vote always turns up two for each location. I tried to reason that we should keep it where it has always been, but they think they should "repay" us by hosting. Why repay for a party when they can't even repay money they borrow? What do we do? We are all stubborn people. I suggested to my bro that we have our party and invite family, but I value my friendship with these guys. You know? Is there like a neutral site you guys could go to, like either a sports bar or another friend's place that is so good that even your mates couldn't pass it up? That might be an out. Personally, I'm not a big fan of Super Bowl parties at people's houses. I'd rather just go out to a brewpub and feel the energy of the place by cracking open a few and watching on some big screens. Just need a designated driver.
Author DiscoChick Posted January 13, 2010 Author Posted January 13, 2010 Is there like a neutral site you guys could go to, like either a sports bar or another friend's place that is so good that even your mates couldn't pass it up? That might be an out. Personally, I'm not a big fan of Super Bowl parties at people's houses. I'd rather just go out to a brewpub and feel the energy of the place by cracking open a few and watching on some big screens. Just need a designated driver. None of us drink! Well, two of us will drink one or two beers but nothing more than that. FACT: People in this area are already drunk before they even get to the bar. Plus, several of my friends get annoyed when drunken men keep giving them high fives. Like I said, I'm the only chick in the whole group, and we've been through that awkward moment in a bar where a drunk guy will stop and high five one of them and wink. After this happened twice, we retired from bars. The last thing I want to do is get into a fight at a bar. Well, I think Chris would have enjoyed it. Anyway, yes! We decided to have it at my aunt's house. Her place is large and her television is HUGE.
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