Patty Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 (edited) Friday morning,I went to work as usual.The manager came in the crew room and had a phone number with someones number on it on a piece of paper, that had been looking for me at work.She said it was secret admirer.So I thought to myself who is is? Then I thought to myself,"ok I have some idea.There has been a man that lives in the same apartment as me and he keeps talking to me and I never thought he could like me romantically,I always thought he was just being friendly.And he kept asking me the hours I work.I never thought anything of it,I only thought he was being friendly.I still havent called yet.I dont want to be to desparate.Then again,I dont know when I should call,or should I wait to run into him? Sometimes Im outside and hes outside and we run into each other alot.Im all excited and afraid to get my hopes up. Edited January 10, 2010 by Patty
CarrieT Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Sorry, but NO WAY would I make that call. Way too creepy. If it is the guy you are thinking it might be and you are not freaked out by him too much, I would approach him and ask if that is his number and why didn't he just talk to you directly. But whomever it is has put the onerous responsibility on you to make the first move. Someone with balls would just engage you in conversation without this game-playing of an anonymous number.
Devil Inside Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I agree with Carrie. That kind of stuff might have been cute in middle school...but now? You have no idea who it really is...if they want to talk to you they need to approach you in person and be direct.
zetkin Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 If it is the guy you are thinking it might be and you are not freaked out by him too much, I would approach him and ask if that is his number and why didn't he just talk to you directly. But what if it's not him? that would be embarrasing. I'd better call.
Clep Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I would just throw the number away and move on. If the person does not have the ability to talk to you and communicate that he is interested, that would be a red flag to me that in a relationship doing things in an up front manner would be lacking. I would be concerned about what that would mean in the future.
O'Malley Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 There's nothing wrong with asking the guy from your building if he left his number with your manager. Perhaps he believed you would easily determine who gave it to her. If he acts clueless or says he didn't leave a number, just laugh and say you're curious who the mystery admirer is. Rather an odd move for an adult but if he's shy it's possible.
alphamale Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Im all excited and afraid to get my hopes up. aren't you concerned about going out with some dude who can't even ask you out face-to-face? his "secret admirer" scheme is sort of creepy
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