Castillo Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Hi, I'm new here and I'd like to ask what maybe a really obvious question. Here's the scene: I started a new job 6 months ago and I immediately clocked this girl who was easily the hottest girl in the office (about 300 staff in our office). I work in a different department to her so I don't get to see her much apart from seeing her in the corridors and occasionally we see each other on the tube into work. I'd noticed her subletly checking me out over this time. 6 weeks ago I met up with some people from work in a pub and she was there. She was sitting at our table in the corner by the radiator and when I came along she said she was hot and needed to move and moved to sit next to me. We were chatting as a group and she would occasionally place her hand on top of mine under the table and she seemed to respond to me well in converstion. I didn't return the touching of hands and just allowed her to do it. She has very long thick hair and on occasions she would swing her head so that it was whacking me in the head - I have no idea if that was intentional. Most of the people there I didn't know very well and I was conscious that I didn't want to make a fool of myself and I wanted to stay sober. When it came to the next round of drinks I asked for an orange juice, but she wouldn't have any of it and talked me into having the same as in the previous round. As the evening went on she talked to the group of a guy she saw in assocation with her work who she thought was really hot and described what he looked like. Her description resembled me! She then went on to tell how she was flirting with him and the flirting moves she was making - this was when her hair was whacking me in the face. Towards the end of the evening I was feeling pretty drunk and I decided to call it a day on a high and left the group to go home. As I was leaving she gave me a long disappointed look. Over the next few weeks I've seen her in the corridors and she's been smiling and waving and we've exchanged a few pleasantries. Sometimes I've returned her smiles, sometimes I have not as I've been under a lot of work pressure and proccupied with other things. Also I'm a little shy and don't want to make a fool out of myself. Just before Christmas a large group of us went on a night out and after a while a few of the girls and me left and went to another bar. As soon we walked in this girl at the bar was looking at me with such a blantant come on. The girls saw this and we talked it over at the table. Then this girl from the bar sits at the next table to us with another girl and they start kissing. She draws away looks directly at me and then starts kissing this girl again. This is repeated several times. I'm sitting next to the hot girl from the office and by now I've had a few drinks and although I didn't go over to the girls from the other table I was entertaining it. Things now get a bit hazy due to the drink. I recall the hot girl from the office leaving with her friend without saying anything. I feel really drunk now and decide it's best for me to go home and leave shortly after. Question I have is was the hot girl from the office into me and have I blown it with what happened in the bar with the two girls kissing each other?
temple Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 It seems like she was definitely into you. You may have blown it..but why don't you just ask her out rather than asking advice on here on what's going on in her mind?
LondonS Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Honestly, ask her straight for the following reasons: 1. She will admire you for being confident 2. you will spare yourself all this analyzing which ofcourse will save your time. 3. You wont develop any more feelings over time if she is sending wrong signals. Some time we misread signals, so I would just get my answer from her. If she accepts, fine, if she doesnt, thats fine too...Just be cool about it. The More cool you show, the more chances you have.
Author Castillo Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 Well a few weeks ago she told me that she was getting some perv looking at her through the window in the office when it gets dark late afternoon (her desk faces the window) and she was going to start work / leave work earlier due to this. I emailed her the next day and said if she needs to work later and finish the same time as I do then she can give me a ring and she can walk to the station with me if she is worried. I never got a response to the email although the smiling and waving in the corridor continued after that.
stillafool Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 She definitely sounds interested in you as well as the girls at the table. Maybe you are as "hot" as you think she is.
boogieboy Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I dont believe she's into you, I think she is baiting you to give her attention. But ask her to lunch anyway, doesnt hurt to try....watch out for this one though.
Author Castillo Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 She definitely sounds interested in you as well as the girls at the table. Maybe you are as "hot" as you think she is. With looks I consider myself to be average - average height, weight etc and started losing my hair a few years ago, so I've shaved it off. I consider myself to be a 7, but I dress in what I consider to be a very stylish, slightly alternative look and I've been complimented on my dress sense. The hot girl I consider to be a 9 and thought she was out of my league. I got burned by a girl this hot 3 years ago - hence my caution. Also, I've been off the dating scene for more than a year and feel pretty rusty.
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