joel Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 any guys here going up to girls and say hello and starting conversation with them kind of easy,but getting to hang out with you or date you after the first time u met her-hardd. i done it a many times. you either get the ones that just plain ignore you, talk to you but dont seem interested, look scared, talk to and seem interested, but never returns ur calls or emails, . me:your cute (in japanese) she:thank you me: so how long u been in canada her-3months. me:ah learning english hey, yea i study computer sci at ubc her -ah very hmm me:so do u find stuyding a new language like english hard hey. i learned japanese before but forgot it all her : yes studying language hard for me,but i have to me:ah i have to go-heres my card give me a text or add me on msn we can chat there. i done the card thing giving my infor out and i also done the may i have ur number or email -samething-not much really. hehe convesation would go something like this. i mean i had some i met randomly and we hung out for coffee and dated, but thsoe are the few few .like u approach maybe liek 30 (not all in one day )and maybe one of them add you to msn or email or text u. its like one in thirty chance for me. lets put it this way its not easy at all. i found going up to girls randomly strangers at coffee shops, chapters bookstore, library,walking on the street, waiting at the bus stop, foood court in the mall not an easy thing to do. i can approach them ,but its like one in 30 -the ones that actually want to meet up and hang out the rest are what i describe above. its just not that easy. any guys done this before ,and had more success.if so how do u do it. is this normal since most ppl dont meet each other through random places,but more like through friends of freinds parties, school, groups, meetups i think its has to do with your looks maybe. and also i do it to japanese and korean overseas studying english girls and im a chinese cbc guy . i was told they are easier to get and more open than local asian girls. im average looking. 5 7 tall average build. 20`s. you think i should just appraoch girls from my own background local chiense asian girls-then it would be easier and more chance since we are the same type of background.
randall Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Purely random approaches to strangers in shops without any prior interaction is never going to have a high success rate. Maybe if you've got movie star looks it will work but not if you're average looking and speak poor english. (No offense intended by the last bit but your written english is not very good and I can only assume your spoken is the same).
light2 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 lol do u really approach a girl and say You're Cute in japanese? That is probably a bad way to start any conversation. Considering you're cbc, you should probably aim for people you can communicate with better. And if they are new to the country, just try to speak normal to them, they will appreciate it more than you trying to speak at their level of english.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 me:your cute (in japanese)... Fail. You don't go up to someone randomly and say "you're cute" You're not supposed to make them feel like you are hitting on them, but just trying to start a conversation. Talk about the surrounding, or what's going on. Find anything else to start the conversation besides "you're cute" And never compliment a girl on her looks that she has no control over. "hey nice eyes! You got pretty blue eyes" Instead say like "Hey those earings look really good! where did you get them from?"
Yukikazi Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 You also don't get any progress due to how you set it up. What possible motivation do you give these women to contact you? Hey have no emotional attachment.. you didn't tell them anything about yourself that means anything.. you have to get past the small talk if you want them to get invested enough. Oh and giving them your # is bad.. you have no control then.. get their #
bluestraps Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I would use what i call the.. I have a reason aproach. Dont come on like youre in a club. You need to have a opening. Something to ask a girl you see like a comment about the weather, or wow its a nice day today, .or can you pass me the sugar, or Cashiers or girls at a bank would be good. A woman you can regulary talk to. Or just get one of thoes new robot women that are going to be available for $ 7000.00 The ones that will take a interest in what you do . Will do as you say.
engravefeelthevoid Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 indeed...approaching like u want to meet her or ur trying to sell something doesnt work.....approach like ur a random person asking for directions or something...like ur there for a reason (not her) then if for example offer a good gesture like should i get u a cab or something... the secret is making it look like ur there for a reason not her...standing and doing nothing...then intiating contact again like u wanna help her and NOT get to know her...prove it like i did once after asking a girl for directions and standing 5 meters away afterwards: I walked up to her again and told her if she's like me to get her a cab just so shed go hom...then i told her that i wasnt gona come with her just get her the cab and let her go....she at this point felt i was no threat and started thinking "we want what we cant have" so we started talking dont come on to her as a threat
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