GAchasen Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Hey, Okay I have been seeing a man for 2 months today. About a month into our relationship, I was getting ready to leave his house to go home and he gave me a hug and a kiss and said "I love you". When I heard it, I wasn't sure if he had said it or not so I said, "What". I didn't say it in any way that would be negative. When I said that he said, "I meant to say be careful". I just got into the car because it was weird...not because I didn't feel it too, but because I felt like I messed up the moment with him....Does anyone know what I mean? Anyway, a couple days later I brought it up again to see if he meant it. He said, "You said what". Then he said "I think I just say that by habit". He stated he cared about me very very very very much!!! LOL... So here is my question.... Does he love me and since he thought I wasn't there, yet, he denied it??? Any thoughts on this....? Thanks guys:)
CrestfallenNoMore Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Hard to say. I've almost said it a few times accidentally when hugging someone goodbye that I cared about but didn't love. I got in the habit myself when married. But my guess is that he meant it. If he said he cared about you very, very, very, much then my guess he's just backpedaling because you didn't respond in kind. Do you hope he meant it?
tami-chan Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 My BF said that to me very early on in our relationship-like a week into or something....it freaked him out! I think it is just because he is used to saying it in very tender, intimate moments. It did not really bother me and did not make him explain..... I think you should leave it alone...if he loves you, you will know by his actions.
tami-chan Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 My BF said that to me very early on in our relationship-like a week into or something....it freaked him out! I think it is just because he is used to saying it in very tender, intimate moments. It did not really bother me and did not make him explain..... I think you should leave it alone...if he loves you, you will know by his actions. make that, EX-BF...don't you just hate it when you run out of time to edit? I did not mean to misrepresent....
Pizzaman81 Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 We say things all the time that just comes out. The other day, I was on a date with this girl for the first time and I caught myself saying "hey babe"... but I didn't catch it, because i've said it!
Author GAchasen Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 Hey Guys, Thanks for replies. Crestfallen...Yes I love him too. But I wasn't ready to tell him...if that makes sense. I was thinking that "cares very very very very much means love...There are a lot of differents things going on with this relationship. He has two kids with full custody of them and a step-daughter who lives in Maryland ( We both live 30 mins from Florida).... He has so much going on right now...and I am trying to see if I fit in with his life. I have fallen in love. I just don't want to get hurt again (read other thread of mine). I agree with actions not words, also.
Author GAchasen Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 Lol Pizzaman....Hey Babe is very funny....I would respond "Hey stud" ....jk...it wouldn't bother me at all. What did your date say?
Pizzaman81 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Lol Pizzaman....Hey Babe is very funny....I would respond "Hey stud" ....jk...it wouldn't bother me at all. What did your date say? She ignored me Which brings to to 3 conclusions: 1. She didn't hear me. (unlikely, we were in my car, it was quiet) 2. She freaked out 3. I didn't say it, and maybe it WAS in my mind... but i swear I said it. I think all of the above is good! Because if she replied "Yes hun?" Then I have gotten into a situation in which I cannot handle at the time.
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