lovelifeforever Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 (edited) Hi everyone, I broke up with my ex 4 months ago after almost 2 years. We went through a lot together, death of one of our parents, his crazy ex, his children dealth with the divorce and me being with their father very badly, failed business, financial problems, I had to move out after living with him for a year.....blah blah blah so much pressure all the time and I was always there for him thruogh it all. We had some major bust ups within the last 6 months - I was always to blame, he never did any wrong, according to him and I ended up a complete wreck. He broke up with me by txt - and had someone new within weeks - I did all the usual stuff that you shouldnt do - pleaded, begged, tried to see him, talk to him etc etc. mostly I didnt know that he had someone new. When I found out I was devastated and even though I am much further down the road, I am still so heartbroken, I still cry most days at some point. Can even write this without crying. We really were so close, he was my 1 - I know I will be ok but find it so hard. I have never felt like this before and have never ever asked an ex back or found it so difficult to move on - I trusted him so much that I think I will never love anyone ever again. FB is the devil - lots of photos of him and his new gf.....need to not look anymore. He did the whole want us to be friends etc too but now is friends with the ex wife that caused so so so much trouble, everything is all sorted out in his life ( I put so much effort into helping him to reconcile with his children who would not even speak to him when I met him, divorce etc etc) and I am out in the cold and he told me to stay out of his life! How could he do that to me - I am so devastated still and feel like a fool while they are all happy, he has new g/f and all are friends again. I am a fool I do worry that I will never let anyone in again, it took a lot to let him in.........thanks for reading x Edited January 10, 2010 by lovelifeforever
LovelyDaze Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Delete him from your Facebook. Don't be afraid he will get mad,upset,sad or any of that. It is going to put that dagger even further in your soul every time you log on & see his statuses and new photos. Just stop now. After that, take his number out of your phone(cell and landline). You need to fall in love with YOU. No other person is supposed to be #1. No one but you. Yes, it hurts like hell in a bonfire on the sun. This is the time that you must do some inventory on your life more than any time ever. Don't linger with the idea of him returning, it will only keep you in emotional purgatory. You must think he is NEVER EVER coming back. Let that his you like a truck and believe it. From here, you can start healing from the ground up. Hanging on to faith that he will change his mind will only keep you wasting time. Many exes DO return, but sweetheart, they 99% of the time, return exactly the same. They haven't made a positive change about themselves and only want to come back to something familiar or to keep you hanging in case they don't find something better. Show your ex that you prize yourself and that your self worth is untouchable. Keep NC. Let him fight tooth and nail for you if he does leave his current GF and want you back. Don't take back the same boyfriend because you will get the same results. Do the hard work in improving your lifestyle. Being single is always a gift because you get the chance to find out what you are really made of. Show him by living your life to the fullest.
Author lovelifeforever Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 Delete him from your Facebook. Don't be afraid he will get mad,upset,sad or any of that. It is going to put that dagger even further in your soul every time you log on & see his statuses and new photos. Just stop now. After that, take his number out of your phone(cell and landline). You need to fall in love with YOU. No other person is supposed to be #1. No one but you. Yes, it hurts like hell in a bonfire on the sun. This is the time that you must do some inventory on your life more than any time ever. Don't linger with the idea of him returning, it will only keep you in emotional purgatory. You must think he is NEVER EVER coming back. Let that his you like a truck and believe it. From here, you can start healing from the ground up. Hanging on to faith that he will change his mind will only keep you wasting time. Many exes DO return, but sweetheart, they 99% of the time, return exactly the same. They haven't made a positive change about themselves and only want to come back to something familiar or to keep you hanging in case they don't find something better. Show your ex that you prize yourself and that your self worth is untouchable. Keep NC. Let him fight tooth and nail for you if he does leave his current GF and want you back. Don't take back the same boyfriend because you will get the same results. Do the hard work in improving your lifestyle. Being single is always a gift because you get the chance to find out what you are really made of. Show him by living your life to the fullest. Thank you, I am having a **** day, dreamt about him and her blah blah blah just fed up of pineing for him.....I have now deleted him from everything and I know I have to move on but just finding it hard when I believed and trusted him so much and he can move on so so easily to another and declare to her the same as he did me. It just devalues what we had so much in my eyes. I need it to get better soon, thank you for replying and your kindness xx
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