delnoire Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Okay, heres the sitch(uation). Every other week, I have to drop off my daughter at my ex gf's house at about five thirty in the morning because of work. I know thats early, and I'd just as well have her get picked up friday night, but my daughter insists she'd rather just stay the night and leave early, but ANYWAYS....(this ain't the parenting forum afterall!) Every time I drop off my daughter at my ex gf's, I have to call my ex and wake her up so she can answer the door and let our daughter in. Now here is where it gets weird. Whenver my ex answers the door on these particular early morning dropoffs, she seems reluctant to be seen, by me at least. She'll open the door and quickly stand behind the wall so I can only see her hand on the doorknob, or she'll stay behind the door as she opens it so I can only just see the tip of her nose. Its weird. Usually I will say goodbye to my daughter on the porch but sometimes I say goodbye to her on the threshold of the house and in those cases my ex will quickly back away even farther and retreat back further so that I can't see her. During normal dropoffs which take place in the afternoons,, which is really the only time we ever see one another, my ex doesn't hide like this. Shes usually quite normal about answering the door and will even make small talk with me. So what in the world is with the shiftiness? Is this a chick thing or what? Feedback desired. thanks.
and.then.some Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 What do you HOPE it to mean? I was thinking the same thing. I don't think you really think it's "shifty". I think you're wanting to think that she's hiding because she cares about her appearance when she sees you... which might actually mean something. (That's the way it looks to me anyway.) The answer... yeah, either she doesn't want you to see her in her night gown or doesn't want you to see her generally ungroomed. Some of us are just very particular about those things, and other only care in certain situations. It really depends on the individual.
tami-chan Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 she just doesn't want you to see her in her just-got-out-of-bed look...
dreamergrl Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I don't see why she would care if he saw her in the morning because of how she looks... they had a kid together, I'm sure he's seen her at her worst. I think maybe she has company....
meerkat stew Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I think she is likely heading straight back to bed, and any adult interaction and conversation might give her difficulty in getting back to sleep. Or, still in the sleep vein, she may still have emotions about your relationship, and seeing you may stir those up and may keep her from falling back asleep quickly.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Right, and all we can offer is speculation. Have you ever considered just ASKING her?
alphamale Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 So what in the world is with the shiftiness? Is this a chick thing or what? Feedback desired. thanks. basically she's been banging some dude (who's probably still in her bed) and looks like hell cause she's been screwing until 3am
Author delnoire Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 basically she's been banging some dude (who's probably still in her bed) and looks like hell cause she's been screwing until 3am LOL I like your style. Actually, that might be true seeing as how shes been with her live-in boyfriend for six years now. Thats no secret. So still doesn't really explain why.
sparkle Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Maybe she's wearing some sexy lingerie..or crotchless panties...or something..
Author delnoire Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 I don't see why she would care if he saw her in the morning because of how she looks... they had a kid together, I'm sure he's seen her at her worst. I think maybe she has company.... You're right, that is what puzzled me about it too. I've seen her in her 'just out of bed' look a million times (we were together for about two years) Why do you think it means she may have company?
dreamergrl Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 You're right, that is what puzzled me about it too. I've seen her in her 'just out of bed' look a million times (we were together for about two years) Why do you think it means she may have company? If she just got done banging someone, it could be quite apparent by her looks. She wants a heads up that you are on the way.
Author delnoire Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 Maybe she's wearing some sexy lingerie..or crotchless panties...or something.. Um....why would she be wearing sexy lingerie or crotchless panties to retrieve her daughter at the door? I mean...she knows what time I am dropping our kid off. And besides, I saw what she was wearing this past saturday, it was loose black pajama pants and an old stretched shirt. Not exactly sexy lingerie in my book:laugh:
Author delnoire Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 If she just got done banging someone, it could be quite apparent by her looks. She wants a heads up that you are on the way. I am an unusually punctual person, so my ex can depend on me to drop our kid off at precisely 5:30, like i am supposed to. That, and the fact that they have no doorbell at their apartment and so I have to call her on my cell and wake her up to come to the door (shes a bit of a late sleeper), gives her a heads up, wouldn't you say? but I get your point. Maybe she does have company, though my daughter has never mentioned any mysterious strangers coming out of her mother and her mother's boyfriends bedroom after she gets dropped off.... So I guess my question to you, since you seem to be an insightful individual, would be, why would she care if I happened to notice she had been 'banging' someone. Its not like we're together anymore, so what would it matter if I noticed she had the look of someone who had been up all night with a partner? Wev'e been brokenn up for about six years. I would like to hear what you think.
dreamergrl Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 There's obviously something that she doesn't want you to see. I think the only way you are going to find out is by asking. We can give you a thousand reasons of what it could be, but who knows.
meerkat stew Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 Delnoire, what time does she normally get up in the morning? If it's 7 or after, she's just going for that last half hour or so of sleep and doesn't want to be thoroughly woken up by interacting with anyone.
Author delnoire Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 Delnoire, what time does she normally get up in the morning? If it's 7 or after, she's just going for that last half hour or so of sleep and doesn't want to be thoroughly woken up by interacting with anyone. Shes a late sleeper, so i think you are probably pretty close.
Author delnoire Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 There's obviously something that she doesn't want you to see. I think the only way you are going to find out is by asking. We can give you a thousand reasons of what it could be, but who knows. I have wanted to ask many times in the past, but I thought it might be invasive. As a girl, would you feel awkward if your ex asked you something similar? If its not really a big deal, sure I will ask her.
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