D Day Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 hey well i had no contact with my husband for 6 days but then he call ask if i wanted lunch(he had our kids) and came home (we r not living together he is seeing someone else) and he instigated the sex. then he didn't talk to me the next couple of days. today our daughter had a soccer game we went together and he came back and hung out at the house. i went to my room i could tell he felt uncomfortable he came back their and we messed around (NO SEX THIS TIME) then he said he felt bad he should not come over when he does this happens then he feel like...... i said how do u feel he said like i cheated on somebody that was a stab in my heart. But every time he sees me he is always garbing me and i go for it because it makes me feel like he still wants me. read my first post i put on and i hope this makes since or someone can help me make since of this????????? :(:(
tojaz Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Cake anyone? Don't let him do that to you. Hes messing with you but feels like he cheated on her! Thats about the most painful thing I can think of. You can't let him have his cake and eat it to. Your worth more then that. TOJAZ
whichwayisup Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 You gotta stand up to him and stop having sex with him. Don't let him in the house. If he wants to see the kids, he can take them out. Then drop them off. He chose to be with someone else, so he LOSES that perk of having sex with you!!! Sorry you're hurting. Stay strong and for own sanity, stop inviting him in the house, or allowing him in. Make it ONLY about the kids. Cut him off because right now he's bouncing between you and his OW.. And you must know she probably has NO CLUE that he's having sex with you, so he's lying and being a jerk to her as well.
JaneDoe35 Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 My husband is now living with 21 year old OW and is still behaving like your husband. We have been separated almost 5 months and I have been trying to save the marriage. I don't remember when exactly - but I stopped the sex thing pretty quickly. Just could not separate my emotions from the act itself. I knocked him back today in fact. There are lots of reasons I will not be with him intimately but one is that there is no way I am going to be just another woman that he can get sex from. No way should you reward bad behaviour with the thing a man loves the most!!!! Don't get me wrong, I miss it but it is just not worth it. JD
Author D Day Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 :confused:i am he always tries to make me feel like **** when i go out he says "well have fun,be safe and use protection"in a ****ty voice. i did talk to him but only about the kids he was asking me if we went to the Dallas Bull last night was it fun and was trying to get me to talk to him. this week i have the kids so he will not call or come around and he is still putting OW and his friends before his kids and that makes me so mad.
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