lightyears Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I have been married amost 10 years and with my wife for 16 years. I am Bi-polar and she was my carer. My Bi-polar interefered in our realtionship in the way that i could get quite depressed, there has never been any violence or abuse or any such like. My wife began acting funny around 8 - 10 weeks ago, spending more time on facebook than in the real world. To cut a long story short she told me she wasn't sure if she loved me or not anymore then she thought she did, then didn't etc., this continued for a few weeks and she started to treat me very very badly throwing pills at me and telling me totake them and die so that i would stop asking questions. I asked many times if there was soemone else and every single time i was told no. Because i trusted her i took her word for it. I eventually found out that there were more than one men which she had been sex chatting with. She even denied it when i was able to how her the messages. 2 Days after Christmas she left with our 3 children aged 9,6 and 5 agreeing to bring them back that night so that we could share custody evenly. However this did not happen and i havent seen my chidren for almost 2 weeks due to her and her mother preventing me. She seemed to change almost overnight from a beautiful caring warm hearted woman into a totally unrecognizable cold hearted, uncaring monster. I caught her on Christmas day sex chatting with someone in the bath while i was cooking the dinner and she just left the kids alone, we always have a real family Christmas. The guy she was chatting with is from what i can gather a real charmer is about 7 years youger than her and is engaged with 2 children and another on the way, one of the others is married with a child too. I truly thought this woman was the love of my life, my soulmate, people ued to say we were meant for each other, we looked alike, our mannerisms verysimilar, views were very alike etc. Now she wants a divorce asap, refuses to talk to me at all, will not let me see our children (unless her mother supervises) and after bringing my children up i certailny do no need supervision from anyone, particularly not her mother. I wanted her to work it out but she said because i told 4 people what happened it would never work out and refused, counselling, mediation , etc. I still love her and wish she was here now but i can't see her ever coming back. The day before she left i asked her to tell me exactly what went wrong and what happened, her answer was, "there's just nothing there anymore" and "if i can think of anything i will let you know!" Is there any chance i can get her back or to see my kids at least, help please.
LisaUk Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Hi I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, there is a lot of help here on LS, the people here have pulled me through my darkest moments. First about seeing your children, yes you have rights (I'm a law student) see a solicitor as soon as possible, first thing Monday, they will set up a contact order hearing most probably, but see one and find out your rights. Secondly, read up on the 180, google divorce busting it's on their website, it's the hardest thing you will ever have to do b/c it goes against all your insticts, but I have been here 6 months and I beleive it is the only hope and if it doesn't work you will be on your way to moving forward if you have to. Keep posting, we're all here for you.
imagine Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Expose to family, friends, church and chop face book at home. Look attractive, dress well and make social contacts. Have no relationship talks. Vent here and never to her.
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