EricaH329 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 So I have known this girl since 10th grade. We immediatly became really good friends. She was always there for me, and she always took my side (even if it was the wrong side ). About a year ago, her and I had a falling out. It was really, really bad. I seriously thought that we would never talk again. Things were said (that hopefully weren't meant), and done that cannot be taken back. I recieved an e-mail from her today asking if I could go out to lunch tomorrow and talk. I have a feeling it's going to be really awkward. I'm not really sure why she wants to do this, since she has a lot of other close friends in her life. I must admit, I am a little weary about this. I'm not sure if there is an ulterior motive, or if she just misses me. But it's been a year, you'd think that if she were to miss me, it would have happened earlier. Any thoughts?
zetkin Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I've had a similar situation. My best friend whom I hadn’t seen for a year (and didn’t really want to see) called me out of the blue and I had the stupidity to answer. She asked me if I could meet her that day and I said “Yes”. So we met, she told me what’s been happening with her,I told about myself. And then she asked me to come to her birthday party in a week or two. I think she did it because even though she seems to have a lot of company, she’s very sociable and everyone seems to be her close friend as she tells everyone everything about herself, she really doesn’t have very close friends. And because she always thinks that there can never be too much friends. Or another reason might be because most of her "close" friends at that time were guys and she needed a girk friend, I don’t know. But some of this may be the case in your situation too.
Author EricaH329 Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 I've had a similar situation. My best friend whom I hadn’t seen for a year (and didn’t really want to see) called me out of the blue and I had the stupidity to answer. She asked me if I could meet her that day and I said “Yes”. So we met, she told me what’s been happening with her,I told about myself. And then she asked me to come to her birthday party in a week or two. I think she did it because even though she seems to have a lot of company, she’s very sociable and everyone seems to be her close friend as she tells everyone everything about herself, she really doesn’t have very close friends. And because she always thinks that there can never be too much friends. Or another reason might be because most of her "close" friends at that time were guys and she needed a girk friend, I don’t know. But some of this may be the case in your situation too. That is a good point. I think it's odd that you say that she invited you to her birthday party. This girls birthday is next month. Which I am sure she will invite me to. I can see how this is going to go. We will talk about what happened when we stopped talking to eachother (awkward), then she will tell me what's been going on in her life and i'll do the same. Then, it'll be like we never stopped being friends. Her and I always had a different kind of friendship. Everyone around us (including the guys we were with) always said we acted like we were married. We would bicker like a married couple, which I guess is why we have had a 'falling out' more than once. I guess we will see how this goes tomorrow.
zetkin Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I can see how this is going to go. We will talk about what happened when we stopped talking to eachother (awkward), then she will tell me what's been going on in her life and i'll do the same. Then, it'll be like we never stopped being friends. That's exactly what happened with me. I don’t know about the reasons why you had a 'falling out' but in my case it was because my friend was extremely selfish and didn’t care about me at all. It was always interesting with her because she always makes drama out of anything, but I than understood that she really is shallow. And one thing had really appalled me. I had the most important exam and I was studying like crazy and really anxious, because it was important for me, and she knew about it. But anyway she calls me in the evening asks what I was doing (I answered - studying) but she even without asking if she might be disturbing me or something starts telling me really unimportant staff about some guy at her school and some minor events for an hour. Then I hear her mother asking her for the phone and she says to me “Can you please call me back in ten minutes?” I say “Maybe some other time?” “Oh, you’re not interested? Then, bye!” and she hangs up. Can you imagine – she got offended. ))) That day I decided – I’m done. And I gradually eliminated all the contact – didn’t answer her phone calls or e-mails. In several month she got the message and stopped calling me. Huh )))
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