benjo0101 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Hi Guys, Ive recently been outpouring my heart in the second chances section but ive realised that my problem is more to do with friendship. My girlfriend dumped me the week before christmas and ive been an emotional wreck since. Ive kinda got over it now but ive realised i dont really have any friends my own age i can go out with. Ive got my best mate but he spends his entire time in with his gf and when he does come out he doesnt wanna go an party he just wants an early night. The only mate i had that did like doin that moved away to join the military and so im stuck with going out with my brother who is 3 years younger and only just turned 18. He doesnt wanna party either and would rather go down the pub (which is fine sometimes but i wanna get out!!) To make matters worse my ex is always out, i always hear about it somehow and shes made loads of new friends, dancing with everybody and having a great time while im sat at home drinking with my brother and his 2 mates. It gets me so down. All my work mates are anything from 8 to 20 years older and have families. The sports i play are the same. Being with my ex was really all i had and the occassional invite from somebody. Ive tried to hook up with old friends that are still in the area but when i meet them we have nothin at all in common. I love being in a group of people and just dont know how to make that happen. It seems everybody is either attached, too old, already happy with their friendship group or not interested. I dunno what to do. I feel depressed and lonely.
zetkin Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Oh, I know how you feel. I've lost all of my friends as well and I also don't know what to do (((
You'reasian Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Feelin for you buddy. I went out last night and had fun. I don't know what else to tell you.
Author benjo0101 Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 Feelin for you buddy. I went out last night and had fun. I don't know what else to tell you. oh great. Thanks that makes me feel better.
WTRanger Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 When you were with your ex, did you isolate yourself? How often did you hang out with other people or couples?
zetkin Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 When you were with your ex, did you isolate yourself? How often did you hang out with other people or couples? I almost never did - I spend all my time with my ex. I now know it was a huge mistake. But the question is what to do with it now?
Author benjo0101 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 yea we did, but theyre couples and theyre boring as hell! It gets me down so bad that she left me after she went out with these new friends and now im left, alone with nobody to talk to. I end up bugging her a thousand times a day because i dont know what else to do. I just wanna go out an party with mates. But i dont have any. Im a nice person, i get on well with everybody, but thats it. I really just cling to my ex now hoping and praying she'll somehow (and i know it wont happed) let me into her new friendship group. She met them weirdly through her work and after one night out shes now the life and soul of the party. I just dunno what to do...its sad, pathetic, useless, and completely out of perspective with the bigger things in the world but i tears me to shreds. I havent got cancer or anything like that and ive still got a good job and all that. How the hell can i be so upset about something so pointless!!! I just sit in on my PC staring at the screen wondering where i could be. im know it wouldnt be every night but it would be nice to know when the weekend comes around i could go off out somewhere an actually be sociable. Oh i dont know. i should quit whining.
rockmanmegaman Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 maybe you can get a new GF or makwe some new friends, I mean there's no point whining about how lonely you're feeling, why not try and make a difference.
paleblue Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 well, what about just going out and meeting some new ones. gotta start somewhere.
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