I want to change

[bitteorca]

I want to change how I lead my life. That's basically it.

 

I drink too much. I go out and get so drunk that I can't remember the latter part of the night, and it creates problems. I did it last night, I get rejected by women presumably because I'm so drunk (I'm not a bad looking guy so I presume its that, and I am quite successful when I'm not too drunk). I think it stems from me being single. I drink to give myself confidence, but overdo it all the time. I think I am ready for a proper relationship with a girl, but I am attracting the wrong type of girls, because I am drunk. I had a one night stand a couple of nights ago, and I don't know whether that is the life I want to lead. I want to cut down drinking, but I don't know whether I can, so I am thinking about just cutting it out all together.

 

I also smoke, and I want to give that up. I am attempting to give up on monday, I'm just sick of it, but I'm afraid I wont have the strength.

 

I also want a better relationship with my mum. I'm discussing this with her soon, so hopefully something will get sorted out.

 

I think all this is because of my split with my girlfriend. I never knew I was actually dependent on someone else. I never was in the relationship, but it seems like I can't be happy on my own. I know its stupid, and I know it doesn't make sense, but it just feels like that sometimes. It was quite a while ago, but I can still feel it. And I'm pretty sure girls can smell a certain amount of desperation. Like I said, I am quite successful with girls, but I'd rather be just successful with ONE girl, the right girl. one success is all I want. I struggle to think where I can meet girls apart from clubs and pubs etc, and I think this is where it all comes from with the drinking.

 

I don't know...I just thought I'd have a rant. I never knew I was this weak, I feel pathetic I never was weak before my split, and I don't know what's happened to me. Any comments would be welcome

[Bronan]

First off, great username - easily one of my favorite albums of 2009.

 

Second: How often do you drink during the week? This is definitely not helping your mental state due to alcohol being a depressant.

[georgejungle]

my family has a histroy of depression and alcoholism. Some

are suffering now (even though they are sober) in their older

age with ailments due to the years and years of alcohol abuse.

I could've EASILY followed in those footsteps (my Dad is an alcoholic,

my Dad's Dad was an alcoholic) and I've had my ups and downs

with depression and being bummed out about things in my life, BUT,

i chose not to do that.

 

I know what it's like with past girlfriends or that "one" that got

away. I definitely have "one that got away" and it tore me up

for years after we split and re-opened a big wound when she

tried to reconnect years and years later.

 

But, i chose to turn her away and just get on with the things in

my life now since it could have been so much easier to just give in

and try and reconnect even though she hurt me a lot in the past.

That was then, this is now. I'm a different person.

 

as far as the drinking, tone it down a little. You don't have to quit completely and just find some inner peace some inner calm with the

past. Have a few drinks to take the stress of the day off, not to

totally black out problems.

[Lovelybird]

No one can make themselves happy alone, so you cannot make a exception either.

 

How about participate a AA group? They can provide an acceptance environment and you can learn to connect to others

 

Many people use alcohol, drugs, sex and food to sooth the hunger for love and human connection, which will fail in the end. Happy singles are those who have many close friends and God, and have substantial love to take in, they aren't really alone.

 

I've heard a man who is a alcoholic, he divorced twice because of his addiction. But he got himself into AA group, one day he attended 7 of them, and some years later he married again and have a successful life and quit alcohol completely