HPR Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 A longtime friend/ex boyfriend of mine have been dating for the past month or so. We've hooked up twice. The last time we did, I had to leave right after because I received a phone call that my grandma had a pretty nasty fall. I didn't really say goodbye or anything, just told him I had to go (I didn't want to break down in front of him). Anyway, I e-mailed him the next day to assure him I had a good time. No response. This is day 4 of no response, so I sent him an apology and told him what really happened. Was it wrong of me to apologize for something I had no control over?
Author HPR Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 This was the e-mail I sent: "Sorry to have left so abruptly the other night - had gotten a call grandma had a pretty nasty fall. Been in and out of the hospital the past few days. If I offended you, I didn't mean to - just didn't know how to handle the news in front of you. Forgive me?"
sunshinegirl Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 A longtime friend/ex boyfriend of mine have been dating for the past month or so. We've hooked up twice. The last time we did, I had to leave right after because I received a phone call that my grandma had a pretty nasty fall. I didn't really say goodbye or anything, just told him I had to go (I didn't want to break down in front of him). Anyway, I e-mailed him the next day to assure him I had a good time. No response. This is day 4 of no response, so I sent him an apology and told him what really happened. Was it wrong of me to apologize for something I had no control over? This doesn't make any sense. The apology was for being abrupt and leaving without explaining why - you had control over that. You weren't apologizing for the fact that your grandmother had a fall. Who knows why he hasn't responded. ***shrug***
OnlyJake Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 A longtime friend/ex boyfriend of mine have been dating for the past month or so. We've hooked up twice. The last time we did, I had to leave right after because I received a phone call that my grandma had a pretty nasty fall. I didn't really say goodbye or anything, just told him I had to go (I didn't want to break down in front of him). Anyway, I e-mailed him the next day to assure him I had a good time. No response. This is day 4 of no response, so I sent him an apology and told him what really happened. Was it wrong of me to apologize for something I had no control over? I'm guessing he thought you were rude and/or freaking out for hooking up with no commitment or some weird thing like that that girls sometimes do, or at least have the reputation of doing He also may have been turned off by your dramatic attitude (regardless of circumstances - you acted very dramatically). Agree with the poster above who said you were apologizing for your rude behavior, not something you didn't have control over.
Author HPR Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 Sorry if I was confusing in my question. I was apologizing for my behavior - leaving unexpectedly without an explanation. I wasn't being dramatic about it, just sort of left quickly and quietly. I was on the verge of tears and didn't want to drop that kind of drama on his shoulders. I emailed him the next morning while I was at the hospital and said "Last night was wonderful. Have a good day at work." I was hoping the whole incident would blow over, but when he didn't respond after a few days, I figured he was still upset. So, that brought me to the apology for my leaving the way I did.
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