Goodgirl1 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Hi everyone, My husband of 14 years has recently left me for a younger woman (he is 40). I have lost some weight and friends and other people have told me I am a very attractive woman who looks 10 years younger than I actually am, which I must say has made me feel much more confident about myself (I am sure you can imagine that being dumped for a younger woman did not make me feel too good about myself). Anyway, the point is I feel ready to move on and want to start dating guys. Trouble is, although it has been quite some time since I last had sex and I really am missiing it, I am really scared about having sex with another man. I suppose I am worried about my not so young body and although I really love sex I worry that I might be disappointing to the guy. Before my marriage I was never into sleeping with lots of different men.
DustySaltus Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Good girl, i'm very sorry about your situation. I know when my ex fiance and I broke up it was very hard at first for me to even think about dating another woman, let alone sleep with them. It's all about what is comfortable for you. After a breakup some people like to get back out there and hook up with someone right away while others like to take their time. At the end of the day what makes you comfortable is all that matters. If you meet someone just set your own pace. Increase the levels of intimacy slowly so you don't feel overwhelmed. I know that when someone tried to hold my hand briefly after my ex and I broke up it felt weird. So it takes time to get to different levels...holding hands, hugging, kissing and eventually sex. However, remember it's your show and you can change your pattern to make you comfortable whenever you like. Don't let other peoples stupid decisions define yourself. Go out and have fun for you, not to validate anyone elses opinion of you. You have nothing to worry about, you hold all the cards. Good luck.
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