WillingToWait Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 It has been 8 months since me and my ex have broken up and I feel so pathetic because I still wish she would come back. I have not been able to get over her I have pretended to be happy all this time now cause I am usually a guy who wants to be happy no matter what. I do not know if I should keep my hopes up because she has a guy that is 20 times better than me. He is 20, she is 18, and me barely 16 turning 17. Once she graduated high school she became confused so we let our relationship take a break but she still loved me until she met the other guy. The other guy has a good paying job and a driver's license and because of him he gave my ex a job too. So now I feel like I am not even good enough for her. I still have all the special stuff that reminds me of her I can't seem to throw them away. I still keep my hopes up though because she will still text me once or twice every week and it is really easy for us to talk. I'm keeping my hopes up so high but I just don't know what to do. She loves this guy so much that she won't even admit she loved me, she called me her first true love and all that stuff but now she says she only thought she did which I know is BS. Now she says she wishes we never gotten close. I just don't know what to do I came here cause my friends are tired of me bringing her up all the time lol but I just want her back.
adamt Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 i know how you are feeling, i'm 38 but you are only turning 17. your life is just begining and you ahve plenty of time to discover yourself. at that age shoudl be plenty of opportunities for you. i also broke up 8 months ago, at your age you should have no problems havigna n active social life, getting hobbies and interests. I know it is hard but you have plenty of time. jsut focus on yourself and have a good time what you like doing and get active. Chances are she wont be with hin for too long, but by then you wil have moved onto someone new.
Always A Lesson Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Ahhhhh ! Most of the pain here is shared by older people. UR so young ! But I know a broken heart is a broken heart and I have learned this in my 47 years, no matter the age, the heartache is HUGE, it sucks the very life out of you. 1. You are brave for reaching out ! 2. You should commend yourself for dealing with the pain maturely Hang in there and take this situation as a learning experience, it is invaluable ! If the girl is WORTH it, I hope she comes back....
WiseOne1 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) Sorry to hear about this, I went through the exact same thing with a girl when I was around 16-18, now I'm 20. First things first... 1. Ex's always make the new GUY seem sooo much better and like hes the perfect guy, while that maybe true when there relationship begins, it can go either way so you have like a 40% chance that they don't work, and 60% chance that they do.. Him getting her a job is defintely a bad thing when it comes to you, it shows that maybe he is actually serious about her, (what do I mean???) I mean that he's not with her for a quick fix, "sex or because he's bored" 2. There will be bad periods in there relationship when she will make you feel like she wants you back, he will start to drift off or they will go through rocky stages and she's going to use you as a BACKUP plan. In the end only time will tell, they'll last a couple of months and that's when you'll see if theres a chance or not. Take it from me and kick her to the curve, seriously!!!! When you get my age in 4 years you will feel like such a fool for even spending 1 day on her. However since your not going to listen to anyone telling you to move on because "I know I didn't" you need to go NC, and don't show that you can easily be used or a pushover. NC allows her to think about you, analyze what you guys had. NC also helps you in 2 diffrent scenarios, you better your chance of getting her back (just because she misses you) and you also give your self the chance to get over her just in case she never comes back. Edited January 9, 2010 by WiseOne1
Author WillingToWait Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 She has been with this new guy for a couple of months now longer than we have lasted. And I know they are both taking their relationship serious. We have not talked to each other for about 2 months but she ended up texting me and now she texts rarely but I don't know, I can't get over it and I get happy when she texts me. At first she hated this guy and ended up falling in love with him, and to cross the line between love and hate is huge, but I just can't get over her. I have tried so many times to get over her, I tried going for another girl, but I just can't get over her because it is safe for me to say that I still have feelings for her and it just wouldn't be fair for me to get with another girl when I still have feelings for my ex. I've tried so many things to get over her tried hanging with friends more and getting back into gaming again but just doesn't seem to work when I am with friends I'm always daydreaming wishing she would be with us. She really is worth it ha she is the first girl to bring me to tears haha i'm not a sensitive person but dang she actually brought me to tears. I don't know even if I am a backup to her, I'd still want another chance
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