youngrod6 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 hi guys, so here is my story.... i have been dating a girl for about 4-5 months, it was great although she did have a couple of personality traits that i did not like, for example... been mean to her mother alot. but saying this she was always nice to me. she is 21 and i am 19 so she is in a different stage of life as she will be finishing university at the ednd of the year and then i presume going abroad to pursue her career, so in a way i always knew it was going to end eventually. i liked this girl alot, and did not want to break up with her, however i play golf at an elite level and ever since i have been with her my performance has been quite average. after talking to my parents and my golf coach they thought i should break up with her as my golf is my number 1 priority and i need to be performing well. anyway i got drunk 2 nights ago and she sent me a text message saying "if youur free tomorrow lets go to a cafe and have a talk" to me at the time this sounded as if she was going to break up with me, so along with that idea in my head (which i later found out she did not want to, but to talk about some unrelated things) and the golf faactor i sent back a message saying that " i think i know what you want to talk about, but its ok the feelings mutual, my golf is struggling and all my attention needs to be on that at the moment". well as you can imagine she did not take this well and over the last 2 days i have been trying to get her to let me speak to her in person but she wont even talk to me, she said she is really really hurt. but so am i. i did not wan to break up with her but my golf game was struggling and it seemed like the right thing to do for my future. i really miss her but ironically i played golf today and shot the best score i have in 3 months. please tell me what you guys think
DiscoChick Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You have made your decision. How is she affecting your game? Is your golf more important than she is? You hurt her when you did what you did, and she is obviously trying to heal.
Zeegagge Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 It sounds like you probably made the right choice. It will hurt her for a time but it doesn't sound like your relationship was headed anywhere bright. Focus on your golf and yourself and let her focus on herself.
Author youngrod6 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 You have made your decision. How is she affecting your game? Is your golf more important than she is? You hurt her when you did what you did, and she is obviously trying to heal. i have no idea how it was affecting my game but it obviously has been. since i last posted, i went over and spoke to her one on one about it she was very very upset and it hurt me alot to see her that down, she text me saying i spent all night with my mother on the bathroom floor crying. that made me feel terrible but i told her ho i feel that i still like her its just a really tough decision tat i made for my future but it kills me to see and hear that she is so upset
Author youngrod6 Posted January 11, 2010 Author Posted January 11, 2010 feeling a little bit better now, but still very upset that she is so upset
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