andrewan Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Be there. Suggest that she stop snooping. Pre-empt a confrontation. Don't let her compare herself to the OW. Allow her to react in her own way. Refrain from playing psychologist. Give her sanctuary.
Boundary Problem Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 1. Be there. 2. Suggest that she stop snooping. 3. Pre-empt a confrontation. 4. Don't let her compare herself to the OW. 5. Allow her to react in her own way. 6. Refrain from playing psychologist. 7. Give her sanctuary. 1. always be there for a friend 2. good luck with that - people who snoop are compulsive and will lie about it. 3. good luck with that - some people must be taught a lesson if they cross boundaries 4. everyone is their own person 5. perhaps. 6. yes - just listen - does wonders for everyone 7. always be there for a friend But she has to be a friend to you. If she is totally wrapped up in the jerk, then she is choosing that. She must reciprocate friendship to you.
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