StWiPe Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) Hai guyz, Long time reader, first time poster. I'll try to condense this little doozy down so it's not a tl;dr. Basically as a teen I used to be a fitness freak, running 80kms (50miles) a week, weight training, sport etc. Then I got together with my first and only partner and things blew out, I stopped playing sport as much, generally letting myself go. I wasn't fat fat, I've got a huge frame and quite tall so I wasn't like the michelin man, although I got up to about 135kgs (260pounds?). 7 years later and I decide I'm going to get back into shape and enjoy the twilight of my competitive sport-participation age to the maximum, I'm in my mid-twenties. Anyways, 6 months of intense training and a physical job and I'm down to under 100kgs, quite well cut and looking good. Now I'm not an oil painting by any means, but neither is Russel Crowe, and here the problem lies: I suffer from extreme social anxiety and cannot handle the extra attention my newly-found chin and physique is bringing. Women at work and female acquaintances are constantly making inappropriate comments regarding my person, and while I appreciate encouragement, lewd behaviour makes me really uncomfortable. For someone who prefers to be invisible to everyone, especially the opposite sex, even a prolonged stare from a stranger makes me paranoid. Flirting or messing about in the way most people do so casually is not something I do, and I've been busy defusing people's attempts non-stop since getting back into shape. It's making me wanting to hide under my pillow and never re-surface. Not sure what I'm supposed to do, I don't really have anything against the attention per se. I don't want to be one of those stick-in-the-mud loners, it's just socially I'm a non-functioning wreck. It may sound stupid and trivial but any advice would be appreciated. Oh and just to make it relevant to this forum, I'm completely committed to my partner, but she's not too happy with the fact I'm suddenly 'desirable' again. It's like it's my fault there are other women on the planet. Edited January 9, 2010 by StWiPe
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