elijah64 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I've always wondered, but since it's never happened to me, I don't know. Let's say you're in love with someone. Is it possible to just wake up one morning and all of a sudden not feel the same about them? Has it happened to any of you?
CrestfallenNoMore Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I think it's possible to wake up and realize that, but the events and feelings that led up to that conclusion were likely occurring for some time.
norajane Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You can wake up one day and realize that you've been falling out of love for a long time and there's really nothing left of the love you once felt. But to just go from love to no love...nope. It's not a faucet you turn on and off. Love is something you nurture and work to maintain. It can die from neglect or a series of actions or whatever. But it happens over time. The realization, though, that it's fading or has faded to the point of no return can hit you all at once.
threebyfate Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 If it happens that dramatically, they were never in love in the first place, just infatuated.
adamt Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I think people see a couple of things in their partner that starts to annoy them. They start getting a bit bored of the relationship. Then the doubts begin to grow but they keep it to themselves rather than talk about it. it starts to snowball from there. meanwhile the other person doesnt have a clue. eventually it all comes out when they have gone beyond wanting to make things work. the other person is surprised and says why didn they mention things a lot sooner. but by then it is too late and the mindset of the person having doubts is checking out of the relationship and ready to move on.
harmfulsweetz Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I don't think it's possible to fall out of love like that. I think it's possible to wake up, and it hits you that you've been falling out of love for some time. i.e. something your partner does, triggers the realization. Falling out of love is similar to falling in love in that it is governed by a series of events. It may be that the two of you want different things out of life, are neglecting each other, there are nagging, unresolved issues, but they all result in the same thing. If it happens in one moment, just like that, then you weren't in love. Although I have known myself to realize that I'm no longer in love in one moment, but usually, looking back, the signs were there, and it was sort of a culmination of issues.
aerogurl87 Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 If it happens that dramatically, they were never in love in the first place, just infatuated. I agree with the above statement ^^^ You can't fall out of love that quickly, but you can go from 100 to 0 like that with infatuation.
Austen Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 Well, the short answer for me is yes. I was with a guy for two and a half years. It was a really good relationship and we loved and respected each other very much. Two years into it he changed his mind about wanting children (he was 14 years older than me). Originally we both wanted children, but then he decided he didn't. We tried to work through that impasse for months, to no avail. While we were taking our second "break" during this time, I woke up one morning and the first thought in my head was, "I'm done. I don't want this anymore." And that was it. I still loved him as a human being and good friend, but I was not in love with him anymore. And just a week before I'd given him a card telling him how much I loved him--and at the time I wrote it, I meant it. One week later I was ending the relationship for good. So, yes, I believe it is possible for people to fall in/out of love quickly, but I don't thinks there's any specific formula for it.
CLC2008 Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 That quickly? No. Over time, yes. Acceptance kicks in and the love begins to fade away.
stace79 Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 That quickly? No. Over time, yes. Acceptance kicks in and the love begins to fade away. Acceptance is exactly what it is! You just wake up and realize that you are not right together for whatever reasons (all of the above mentioned are good reasons that take time to build up), but when you accept it, it can be instantaneous for some people.
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