Thebob Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Last Saturday we had a good conversation because I wanted to know where she wanted to take this. I wanted to know where she was mentally and not what her friends have been telling me. I told her that her friends were asking me random questions but I wanted to know where she was coming from because I wanted to know from her and not her friends. She had no idea that her friends were doing that, and I believed her cause she looked shocked. I told her since we both like each other we should give it a try and try and build trust and see where it can go. I told her that we should go on a date and see how we meshed/clicked in which she agreed. So I went on a date this Wednesday to a shopping mall, and it couldn't have gone any better in my opinion. We never had a gap in between our conversations, the 3.5 hours of shopping went by in 30 minutes, and everything seemed to be good. She chose for us to do this, and she came up with this time when we spoke on Monday because the dates I set up never fitted her schedule. Accept when we departed ( cause I had to go to work ) we just hugged and no kiss, but we've hooked up in the past before so it seemed a little strange. It just seemed like she didn't want to, so idk.. Anyways Ive talked to her everyday since through texts and told her that I had a good time and if she has free time before she goes back to school that she should let me know and she agreed. Ive been talkin to her since Nov, when we hooked up at a club and I have learned a great deal about her. She is rich, smart as hell, a goody girl, got out of relationship in August when it lasted for 2.5 years, and doesn't want to be hurt again. I brought up how we had that good conversation on Saturday and it was nice knowing where she was mentally. She told me she liked me, but i'm second guessing that a little bit and idk why. Overall she is way outta my league in everything that she does cause I only go to a community college and work and live in a decent apartment. She is like a multi millionaire daughter, workin on her masters blah blah blah. She heads back to school tomorrow, and its about 3.5 hours away. I don't know what I should do. Keep in contact with her 1nce every few days until she comes back for break and summer? or try and push it and try and visit her? I really don't know. I know she wont find another guy up there cause since I been working this hard for so long, another guy will take just as long if not longer. The problem is she doesn't initiate conversations! but once I initiate we talk for hours on end. She has only ever initiated twice and one was when she was back in town. She told me that is just how she is and it gets her in to trouble sometimes. SO anyways, any advice would be greatly appreciated and sorry for this long post but I really don't want to mess this up. I've never been with a girl that is as high caliber as this before and it's like catching a great white in the ocean! Thebob
sagetalk Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 a good conversation 3.5 hours of shopping we just hugged and no kiss I know she wont find another guy up there cause since I been working this hard for so long, another guy will take just as long if not longer. This does not look good. I've put parts of your post in bold. Look at it carefully, do those first three lines, when added together, look like a girl that is crazy about you? Why are you so cocky about her not finding another guy? If she's rich and attractive, I think you are sadly mistaken. There are plenty of guys in the world who know exactly what to do to make women happy. All they need is five minutes and she'll never think about you again except to send you an email saying, "lets be friends". She said she liked you, but she likes her brother too. My advice is ask her out again, if she blows it off you should back off from her for awhile.
Author Thebob Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) Your right, I'll just back off, we'll I can't ask her out on another date cause she is back in school now. So there is no point, I guess I'll just wait till she initiates me. I mean we just went shopping though until I had to go to work, so I guess we'll see. And her friends have been pushing for me and her to date so idk. She is sending all these mixed signals. But to still spend that amount of time shopping with a guy she met at a club is still pretty good. It's kinda hard also to create something when I met her during a college break, so that is why I am asking if I should talk to her like 1nce every 5 days to a week until she is back? Thebob Edited January 9, 2010 by Thebob
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