I have never been attracted to any girl that has shown intrest in me..problem?

[Brady_to_Moss]

I just realized this tonight (i know, i know), that every girl that has expressed interest, i have not found attractive what so ever. I know, the ones who you cant have you love, but when someone likes you, you want no part and this has been my issue. At least 4-5 girls in the past 2 years have shown SOME intrest and i have not been attracted to them one bit. I went out on at least one date with them, but no more as i just wasn't feeling it. When am i going to feel it?

 

It's so frustrating becasue i am so ready for a R after taking a 10 month break in even thinking about girls.

 

I am tall but very skinny and i think its a major turn off for women i really do. As much as they say it isn't, i know that it is. The women who have shown intrest, arnt ugly, arn't hot...just dont do it to me...i see girls all day at work that looks wise, would do it for me and i hate to say it, but right now thats all i want. Just to be with someone who i am attracted too.

 

Hell even a dirty one night stand with a beautiful women would really get my confidence up at this point

[OceanTropic]

It just means you're not attracted. You can't like every single person that likes you.

 

Why is your confidence down? Are you looking for a relationship but can't find a good candidate?

[Brady_to_Moss]

It just means you're not attracted. You can't like every single person that likes you.

 

Why is your confidence down? Are you looking for a relationship but can't find a good candidate?

 

 

It's not that its down...it use to be horrible but have been getting better as i work a lot now and have school work...my life is busy now. I am looking for a R now...well not really looking, but just opening myself up to the idea of being with someone. It's hard doing great on your own and loving your free time, then to give most of that time away to someone else that may prove to be a dud.

 

 

What would be a good number....1 out of every 10 that are attracted to you, you like as well? What's your average number?

[meerkat stew]

Sounds like you need to take a more proactive role in seeking out women that you do find attractive and creating dating opportunities with them. No man is going to be happy sitting back and waiting for women to "show interest" you have to get out and approach a whole bunch of the types you want. Do this and your problem will disappear.

[OceanTropic]

 

What would be a good number....1 out of every 10 that are attracted to you, you like as well? What's your average number?

 

 

I am attracted to 0 out of every 100 men that like me. I always like the men who never look at me. Why is this? Because I like tall, dark and handsome men. Unfortunately, these kind of men are very conceited and are "players". So even if they are interested, they won't do anything about it.

Edited January 9, 2010 by OceanTropic

[Left in a Lurch]

It's probably a little to do with the vibe you give off to the ones you aren't interested in, a confident attitude because you really don't care.

Attractive women make you less confident and make you think things like she is too hot for a tall skinny guy and you probably come off as insecure/ not confident.

 

That's why they say it finds you when you are not looking because when you don't care when you don't have some girl's hot ass on your mind, and you are usually more outgoing and not so worried about what the women around you are going to think so you come across with confidence.

 

Good looking married women probably compliment you because you don't freeze up around them because you are not trying to necessarily bed them.

[Brady_to_Moss]

Yeah chat room you are probally right..and your right about the married women thing becasue you know what? I will sometimes flirt with them and vise versa becasue i know they are married and nothing will happen....i need to take this approach with everyone.