jw90063 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I haven't been on the OkCupid dating site too long, but so far, not good. I started communicating online with this guy. Things took a turn for the worst. I wanted to share my online experience. So, guy seemed fairly decent at first. We continued to chat for a bit, and and just after an hour or so of talking online, he gave me his phone number. I politely told him I'm no where near ready to talk to him on phone. It's nothing personal, but just met him from this site, and I like to take things slower(as stated in my profile). So, he immediately tells me he gives up, and threatens to log off chat. I was like like "Wow, why are you getting this worked up, because I'm not ready to talk on phone yet". He told me to take care, and supposedly left. Later, he actually IM'd me again. He tells me he has severe depression, and has lost everything, and maybe even his car. I felt sorry for him, but the way he was acting was freaking me out a bit. The worst part is he has this incredible excess baggage from a previous long term relationship. He started going off on a tangent. I couldn't even keep up. He did note that he still loves his ex girlfriend, despite her almost killing herself when they broke up. He apparently blames himself for this, and admitted he often sits with a gun right next to him. OK, so he is informing me how he has no luck on this site, but how can he expect to to find a date if he has so much emotional baggage? He even states on his profile that he is looking for someone just as good as the last one. I continued to chat with him on a "Friendly" level, and he tells me he just got an IM from this really cute girl on Okcupid. He tells me that she wants to come over to stay the night. I asked him if he was serious, and he said yes. Of course, I'm wondering, why would a girl come over to spend the night that you just met. He tells me he isn't just looking for a hookup and thinks this is normal that she wants to come over to stay the night. WTF??! I went back to view his profile on the site, and he had changed some things. He made a note, that he was in a serious relationship but completely over it. Oh boy... As of now, we are not speaking at all. Wow, just wow .That's all I can. Feel free to share your lovely experiences as well.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 So, he immediately tells me he gives up, and threatens to log off chat. I was like like "Wow, why are you getting this worked up, because I'm not ready to talk on phone yet". He told me to take care, and supposedly left. Actions like this points to low confidence and depression definitely. The man cannot take simple rejections and want things his way. It's good that this side shows up now than later. Next! With me, the only funny experience was when I was talking to this girl, I was reading in her profile under section "Things I cannot Do Without" she put LOVE Then in her question of "How long do you plan on having your next relationship last" she put "a few months to 1 year" I pointed that out and she said "ya nothing serious" That's about it. The rest of the girls I've met in person were decent.
Author jw90063 Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 Actions like this points to low confidence and depression definitely. The man cannot take simple rejections and want things his way. It's good that this side shows up now than later. Next! Yeah, thankfully I picked up on this while chatting. It's not like I told him I wasn't interested. Why would anyone in their right mind, not understand a girl not being ready to give their phone # within a couple hours of chat?! Well, he told me to take care and started pouting. how old was he? he sounds immature. 29... Acts like 20, if you ask me. I mean he not only seems immature, but completely unstable. I almost feel like warning any girl who converses with this guy. I personally wouldn't want to go out with someone who has been contemplating suicide or openly admits to sitting with a gun beside them.
stepka Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I almost feel like warning any girl who converses with this guy. I personally wouldn't want to go out with someone who has been contemplating suicide or openly admits to sitting with a gun beside them. I don't think you'll need to do that--the red flags are waving in the breeze.
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