turtle32 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I seen a lady on a friends facebook and i am new to facebook so really didnt know if it was cool asking to add people that you dont know. But i sent her a request and she added me went a couple days and she just liked one of my comments.So i got the neeve to sent her a message saying i would ike to get to know her better.The next day she anwsered and said that would be fine. So then we chatted about an hour had a good conversation. I sent her message the next day asking her how her day was and if she wanted to chat later to give me a yell. She anwsered when she got home and said she was tired didnt know if she would be on.She asked me how my day was and told me to have a goodnight.I anwsered her email.i havent sent anymore should i wait awhile i dont want to be topushy of seem desperate.should i wait see if she sayes something to me or make the next move? And for you women is this a good sign that she is intersted?
Yukikazi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Don't chat online daily... Try to get her in a good happy mood then tell her you need to sign off but would like to continue the conversation and ask her for her #.
Lizzie60 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I agree with Yuki... you're ready for move #2... get her phone number... and ask her for a date.. Otherwise, it's a waste of time.. IMO From what I read here... I don't think she's that interested to have an online relationship... she might be more interested if you ask her to meet face to face.. Go from there.. maybe you won't feel any chemistry... who knows?
Author turtle32 Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 Hexk we only spoke once isnt asking for a date or phone number abit soon? heck im not even sure she is interested lol
Lizzie60 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Hexk we only spoke once isnt asking for a date or phone number abit soon? heck im not even sure she is interested lol Huh??? You said: So i got the neeve to sent her a message saying i would ike to get to know her better.The next day she anwsered and said that would be fine. So then we chatted about an hour had a good conversation. I sent her message the next day asking her how her day was and if she wanted to chat later to give me a yell. She anwsered when she got home and said she was tired didnt know if she would be on.She asked me how my day was and told me to have a goodnight.I anwsered her email.i havent sent anymore should i wait awhile i dont want to be topushy of seem desperate.should i wait see if she sayes something to me or make the next move? And for you women is this a good sign that she is intersted? That sounds like more than once to me...
Author turtle32 Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 this all happened in two days lol i think i will seem to eager
Lizzie60 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 this all happened in two days lol i think i will seem to eager Then.. maybe you can wait a few days... then email her.. ask her for her phone number.. (ask her first if she'd like you to call).. she might not be interested to go any further than what you already had so far..
Author turtle32 Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 Ok up date laste lastnight i sent her message this morning she responded seemed like a nice message so ive had tendacies to mess things up by seeming to eager might be in my head but i sent one back, so do i wait for to reply and should i ask her this ealy on for her number or ask her out wow you would think a guy that has been in the dating world as long as i have would be a pro lol. just dont want to screw things up heck she just may be being friendly:)
Yukikazi Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You need to stop asking for advice on what to do after you have already done it.
adamt Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) be aware that people do not spend 247 on the internet. if she replies again then send one back(but not straight away do it 6 hours later or the next morning) with a nice message then at the end ask if she would like to meet in person for a coffee or drink. if she says yes then ask for her number if she hasnt given you it. just dont be too keen to reply back quickly.take similar amount of time it to reply that she does to reply to you. that way she will feel comfortable. my sister was in a lecture once and some lad rang her 11 times in an hour.she had only been out with him once and my sister eventually answered and he was saying it wasnt fair to be ignored. so my sister ended it there and then. i use online dating and you can see the time when someone read your email. so sometimes i wont read a messge for a few hours and then reply back, because it looks unattractive if it seems you are waiting and firing back an email straight away. makes you look desperate and can scare women if they hardly know you. let the woman dictate how quick you reply from the time it takes them to reply. You have to be available and keen but not too available that it looks like this is the first woman that has shown interest and you are desperate Edited January 9, 2010 by adamt
Author turtle32 Posted January 10, 2010 Author Posted January 10, 2010 thanks for the last advise very good. Well she anwsered my mail i sent friday sat morning i screwed up and sent one back then i didnt here from her until just a while ago it is sun and again i screwed up sent one back i hadnt read the advise so i guess i will wait awhile to respond if she anwsers. She isnt giving much away in as far as showing how much if at all interested, im guessing she must be somewhat interested or she wouldnt write back so i think i will just not be so quick on responding when she writes back if she does i will wait a good amount of time and then maybe ask her if she would like to maybe exchange numbers or meet for lunch. do you guys think she is interested by anwserig or maybe just being nice?
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